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To have stuck up for this woman in work?

96 replies

Freeeeeeeeeeeze · 20/11/2020 17:21

I am a supply TA (teaching assistant).
I was working in a school today with another supply TA and it was her first day at the school.
Staff in this school wear leggings and jumper usually. This woman was around early 20s and was petite. She was wearing a grey a-line skirt with a blue top that went up to her neck and black tights.

Another TA kept making comments at her. Like "you look like youre going clubbing, not working in a school".
The regular TA then couldn't work out how many 's's were in a child's name, so the supply TA said "oh his name is here and said there were 2 s's and she began to spell the name out;
The regular TA started laughing loudly and proclaiming "hahah i can spell the name, haha i dont need you to spell it for me, hahaha" and her and the teacher started laughing together.

I could see the supply TA getting really uncomfortable. I made a comment to 'stop being snidey" which resulted in an awkward atmosphere all day.

I'll be shocked if the woman comes back tomorrow.
It probably doesn't sound a big deal on here but these women were making the woman uncomfortable.

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forrestgreen · 20/11/2020 17:22

You were a lovely person

Aquamarine1029 · 20/11/2020 17:23

Can you report these miserable cows for their awful behaviour?

Butchyrestingface · 20/11/2020 17:23

Is the regular TA generally unpleasant?

justthecat · 20/11/2020 17:24

Good for you

Isthisnothing · 20/11/2020 17:25

They sound awful.

AnnaSW1 · 20/11/2020 17:25

Never ignore bullying. I'm with you

showgirlie · 20/11/2020 17:25

It was uncomfortable because they didnt like being called out on their behaviour, if they didn't realise they would have apologised and explained they didnt mean for it to come across like that, good for you

WhatKatyDidNxt · 20/11/2020 17:25

YANBU they sound bitchy and jealous

CremeEggThief · 20/11/2020 17:25

Good for you. X

Meepmeeep · 20/11/2020 17:26

I’d really hope she doesn’t come back tomorrow, with tomorrow being Saturday! 😝

shrill · 20/11/2020 17:26

Miserable & insecure - lovely display from them!

Freeeeeeeeeeeze · 20/11/2020 17:27

Oh dear been a hectic day! Come back Monday I meant Envy
Yes these TA's are quite a cliquey group, i've been in the school long-term though so i'm used to them

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Freeeeeeeeeeeze · 20/11/2020 17:27

Didnt mean the green angry face either hahaha

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Janaih · 20/11/2020 17:28

Good on you!
As an aside, I like to see teaching staff smartly dressed.

Sojo88 · 20/11/2020 17:28

I'm really glad you spoke up for her, you did the right thing.

stackemhigh · 20/11/2020 17:28

Well done, OP. Too many people would have kept quiet for an easy life.

I always stick up for people (supermarket and shop staff etc)
, however when I've been subject to abuse I have long ago given up the expectation that anyone would stand up for me.

CoronaIsWatching · 20/11/2020 17:29

You did the right thing and you know you did. The other two TA's sound like the ugly sisters in Cinderella

Delamalama · 20/11/2020 17:29

We need more people like you in this world! 👏👏

Feministicon · 20/11/2020 17:29

Well done you, it’s not always easy standing up for people and the regulars sound jealous and awful.

ChickensMightFly · 20/11/2020 17:31

I hope she comes back so you can make her really welcome and they have to view their tonight knowing they can't make bitchy comments with a free pass when you're around.
Well done op, I'm sure you made a difference to her today. Fancy long standing staff making a young new comer feel so unwelcome, horrible show of abuse of power and they should be ashamed of themselves.

ChickensMightFly · 20/11/2020 17:31

Bite their tongues, not view tonight. 😂

Freeeeeeeeeeeze · 20/11/2020 17:32

It just made me sad as I know how it feels being on supply and walking into a school for the first time.
They just didn't give her a chance.
Behind her back they were suggesting everything she was doing was wrong.
These are autistic children by the way.

I could see she got less chatty as time went by and by the afternoon, she wasnt really saying a word. Made me sad.

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Feministicon · 20/11/2020 17:33

Pair of cunts shouldn’t be working with kids

Freeeeeeeeeeeze · 20/11/2020 17:33

So working with autistic children is hard enough nevermind not having support from fellow staff.

She didn't know their triggers etc. but of course she wouldn't as it was her first day

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Pluckedpencil · 20/11/2020 17:33

Good on you, some people live to take other people down, but if everyone called them out like you did, they'd soon stop.