I have a close family member who leans very heavily on me an DH much of the time, wanting to spend a lot of time with us, demanding we broke lockdown in the spring to see them because none of their friends would.
This person freaked out a couple of years ago when we suggested scaling back Christmas gifts saying that it was unfair because we’d have gifts from each other but they would only get a small gift from their elderly mother and that would be rubbish and ruin Christmas for them. So we agreed to carry on, even though we never intended to scrap all gifts to them, it just felt a bit daft as adults to be buying so much stuff.
No this person is in a relationship and not only have they stopped calling or wanting to meet but they messaged the other day to say not to buy them anything as new DP was going to get them lots of gifts and that they’d not buy us anything, fair enough.
On one level I’m a bit annoyed that we’re only good enough for this person when they’re alone but as soon as they have a better offer we never hear from them. On the other hand I think perhaps it’s just normal family stuff and to be expected?