To be wary of getting a lift with my colleague who shouted at my own mum

[ston]

I (23F) currently can’t drive so a colleague from work kindly gives me a lift to and from work.

At my work the holiday allocation works by letting those that haven’t had that week off before have it off this year. Yesterday my colleague found out she didn’t get the Christmas week off she requested because she had had it off the previous year. She starts going mad at my mum (who is the manager there) and other managers. Eventually she ends up leaving work and going home because she’s so upset and angry. She didn’t tell me she was going home so my parents had to come get me from work.

I feel SO awkward now because she is mad at my mum for not letting her have the holiday she wants even though she knows how the system works. Like do I text her today saying are you okay and coming to work? Do I act like I don’t know the situation? Just looking for some advice.

FYI I should be driving soon but coronavirus has caused a lot of disruption to my test

She didn’t shout at your mum though, she shouted at her manager. If you work with your own family you have to completely disconnect your family relationships at work I think.

She’s BU for kicking off about not having Christmas off when she had it last year but it’s going to be awkward for you so I’d maybe find an alternative way into work.

The colleague was in the wrong, and she shouldn’t have shouted at the managers including your mum, and flounced out of work. Clearly she doesn’t appreciate the fact that she has a job, when so many have lost theirs. I hope she’s on a warning!

You could text to ask if she is OK, but don’t hold out any hope of a lift if she decided to call in sick.

My mum is the manager.

Yes I agree. I guess she didn’t do anything to me so I should disconnect myself from the situation.

@ston

My mum is the manager.

Yes I agree. I guess she didn’t do anything to me so I should disconnect myself from the situation.

I know your mum is the manager but you’ve worded it as if she just randomly shouted at your mum in your title. It’s her manager, she has no relationship to your mum apart from the fact it’s her manager. She was pissed off and acted immaturely but as hard as is it if you’re going to work with your mom you have to remember your colleagues don’t have the same relationship you have with her and from time to time they may disagree with her managerial decisions and it’s going to feel awkward for you.

^ What Jumperoo said.