To take this job?

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I've been offered a new job having lost my old one.

The new job is with a company that has a reputation for being tough, with poor employee ratings. It's got a few legal rumblings that have been in the press but is generally regarded as a hot and growing business. It's fast paced and this job is very visible, a big new role in an important dept. Excellent on my CV if I were to stick it out.

The pay is ok but less than I was on before. It seems to be very inflexible (I've asked) and holiday is poor, work pace is v v high. We have young children.

So it's a big/scary job in a big tough company with no flexibility and ok pay.

We absolutely do not need the money.

My husband is keen that I take it. Saying I should try it and see, what's the worst that can happen. He's worried that I will be bored at home, and he's probably right.

I am torn. AIBU to accept, perhaps it will be better than I think? Or is this a really daft idea?

I would probably take it and see how it goes.

If you're not going to have the financial pressure of needing it to work at any cost then it might actually turn out to feel more manageable because you won't feel trapped.

Bonus keep looking. It sounds awful! You have said barely anything good about it.

With the job market the way it is at the moment, I'd be inclined to take it.

For me it depends on how important your career is to you and how quickly, realistically, you would be able to find something else.

Personally I think I’d give it a go. You’ve really nothing to lose. If you hate it, well, you’ve already said you don’t need the money 🤷🏻‍♀️.

@Ohdoleavemealone I'm not sure I can think of anything that excites me about it. My heart sinks slightly when I think about it.

I suppose I think my DH must be right, I should try. And that seems to be the common response.

I think they think I'm much better than I am, I'm really not sure that I can do it. I'm feeling a touch fragile at the moment. My DH seems to think this will help.

How long is it since your last role ended?
You could take it and see how it goes - but if your working full time and looking after a family, it could be hard to find time to look for another role you like better.
If you don't need the money, maybe take it and set your self a date that you'll try it for? Possibly your probation period before you get locked in to a long notice period.
That said, I once took a role in a national company that had a dire reputation; my face fitted, I got on really well, got promoted and doubled my salary within a couple of years - so it could be OK.

If you are feeling fragile, this will absolutely not help IMO.

Why did you apply, there must have been something that appealed, if you don't need the money?

If you feel that way, then no, I wouldn't take the job unless I was desperate for the money.

Why did you apply for it?
What was the interview like/how were interviewers?
If you knew what they were like and applied there must be a reason, if you didn't & they showed themselves to be like this during recruitment run a mile...z

@BecomeStronger I applied in a panic the day I lost my previous job. I didn't realise then what I know now.

I didn't even realise after the final interview, it was from talking to contacts and then asking for some flex that I've come to realise that it's worse than I thought.

I was previously quite excited by it, although did doubt my ability to do it.

My career is probably not as important to me as I thought it was. If I left this new job I wouldn't look for another. I'd just stay at home and be a bit bored but it wouldn't be the end of the world.

I would be very wary as you could be one of those employees leaving in droves within a few months. Then the short stint wouldn’t look good on your CV at all.

Apologies as I didn’t take into account that you lost your old job above. Actually, I would take it whilst you keep job hunting. But I would be wary about leaving a secure position for it as it’s risky.

I initially thought that you should give it a go, but I changed my mind after your second post. If you’re feeling “fragile” the risk is too large.

If you get “bored at home”as your husband predicts, volunteer somewhere (childcare allowing).

Perhaps your husband is a bit worried about being the sole earner.

I would take it and see how it goes. Do your best and try not to feel too pressurised, with that reputation you must be great if they hired you so own it!

And from personal experience I’d take employee ratings and reputation with a pinch of salt. I worked for 10 months in a very well regarded organisation, which was one of the Times top 5 places to work based on employee satisfaction etc. It was an awful and toxic atmosphere behind all that front, lots of scandal with the directors etc too.

Good luck whatever you decide, but if it doesn’t work you have nothing to lose.

[quote newnamenancy]@BecomeStronger I applied in a panic the day I lost my previous job. I didn't realise then what I know now.

I didn't even realise after the final interview, it was from talking to contacts and then asking for some flex that I've come to realise that it's worse than I thought.

I was previously quite excited by it, although did doubt my ability to do it.

My career is probably not as important to me as I thought it was. If I left this new job I wouldn't look for another. I'd just stay at home and be a bit bored but it wouldn't be the end of the world.[/quote]
But you said upthread your husband wants you to get a job. I think he maybe knows you wouldn’t look for another and wants to ensure you do stay in employment. What’s your household money situation like?

I worked at a place that was hell, so bad that I quit while I was on leave as I could not go back. Got my recruiting agent to find me somewhere else. Offered a role at a firm. Agent warned me off it, firm had a bad rep. I took the role and loved it.

It may just work out for you, you don't know until you try. They've been clear on their boundaries and flexibility and haven't misled you. I'd give it a go.

Give it a go. That’s the only way you will really know.

I'd probably give it a go but be prepared to throw in the towel in if they do indeed show themselves as dicks. On day one if need be.

I wouldn’t take a job that I wasn’t looking forward to on the first day. Workplace culture is really important to me so alarm bells are ringing. A miserable job can make life horrendous and I wouldn’t risk a short, unsuccessful spell on my CV. I’ve been where you are and I took the job :-/

No views on the job but it's lovely to hear of a husband actually supporting a woman's career on MN

A lot of life is unavoidably boring right now. I think I'd give it a choice.

*chance

Ok, I think I feel that it's sensible to give it a chance. Thank you.

If it doesn't work out I can leave. The only downside would be that we'd need to let our nanny go as we wouldn't need her.

It is good that DH supports my career. I think he's a bit worried about me, and my judgement isn't the best at the moment, so it's been really useful that you all agree with him.

Money really isn't why he's suggesting I go back though, we're v lucky and there is lots in the bank. We could both retire now if we wanted to.