To think at 26 my friend has a long time to go before she needs to worry

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My friend who’s 26 is worrying that she’s getting too old to have a baby. I’ve told her she’s got a long time before she has to worry. Aibu?

Please advise her to do is to not settle for the next man she meets just because she is desperate for DC. I've seen it happen amongst my friends so often - letting the baby blinkers cloud their judgement. She owes it to her future DC to choose their father wisely.

*apologies for random word jumble in first sentence - would love an edit function. Should read 'Please advise her not to settle for...'.

Difficult because she could have plenty of time but equally she may not.

Someone said similar to me. I shouldn't have listened. 9 years later I had my first in a panic and wish I'd done it younger.

Why does she think she's too old? Biologically probably not. Is it a cultural/ social expectation?
As unscientific anecdata the majority of my friends had babies under 20 or in the 34-42 bracket. So either group could be considered too young/too old.

Well in theory she has time, but it depends on a lot of factors. Time has a habit of flying and if she hasn't met anyone yet then she might be starting to think about timings. Also, it depends on her family history. I was quite keen to have DC before 30 because both my mum and sister had a baby or two before 30 and all was fine, then really struggled to have one after 30. So, as my family history was for fertility to struggle past 30ish I didn't especially want to wait too long. Luckily I was able to have mine at almost 27 and 29, but if I hadn't met anyone by 26 I would probably be worrying too, based on my family history.

🙄🙄🙄 yes she should worry, times ticking on - she’s only got about 14 --months-- years

I don’t know a single person who had a baby in their 20’s so I find it strange personally. The thought of settling down that young brings me out in hives.