Noise from nextdoor driving me nuts but it's not deliberate...

[eenymeenyminyme]

I've been kept awake by a banging noise for a while, and after much investigation it turns out it's my (staggered terraced) next door neighbour's aerial which has broken and is banging on the side of her house, as the cable is still connected and the metal bit is blowing in the wind.

I knocked on her door and told her about it at the weekend but she didn't seem that concerned. I mentioned that one of our neighbours would probably be able to look at it for her but I don't think she's done anything about it. I don't understand how it's not driving her nuts, it's her house it's banging on, I'm just getting the noise second hand through her wall!

WIBU to speak to the neighbour who might be able to fix it myself to speed the process up? The lack of sleep is doing my head in but I don't want to appear nagging or nosy... or should I speak to the neighbour with the aerial again? If so, how long should I give it?

Lack of sleep is affecting my ability to know what to do for the best...

No you can’t speak to the neighbor for her.

She’s clearly not bothered about it and probably doesn’t plan to do anything about it, specially if she has to pay for it.

I would speak to the other neighbour - see if the two of you can fix it for her.

I’d knock on her door though and offer to fix it for her as it’s keeping you up.

So what do I do Elfie? I can't just not sleep until one of us moves house... how long do you think I should give before I ask her what she's planning to do about it? I'll even pay for it if it means I get to sleep!

@Elfieishere

I’d knock on her door though and offer to fix it for her as it’s keeping you up.

Crossed posts [grin}

We posted at the same time

I think you can go back again and offer to get it fixed for her but you can't actually sort it out without her saying it's ok first

@Elfieishere

We posted at the same time

And again! But you mastered the smiley way better than me

I'd speak to the neighbour that might be able to help and if they can, go back together to talk to her.

Or bury her under the fucking patio, knock though into her house as a side extension & get the Ariel fixed

@Hardbackwriter

I think you can go back again and offer to get it fixed for her but you can't actually sort it out without her saying it's ok first

Oh no I wasn't suggesting that, I just meant to ask the (fixing) neighbour to knock on her door and ask her if she wanted it looked at

I keep her awake all night
she how concerned she is then

@Hardbackwriter

I think you can go back again and offer to get it fixed for her but you can't actually sort it out without her saying it's ok first

if it's causing a noise nuisance at night I think you would have a case to get something done about it whether she likes it or not!

@Yohoheaveho - realistically how long do you think it will take to get sorted by kicking up a fuss and speaking to the council etc? Months! And all that time the OP won’t be able to sleep.

Better to be nice about it. You never know what people have going on in their lives. She may be snowed under at work or She might be skint and can’t afford it 🤷🏼‍♀️

The people who think I should speak to her again, how soon is OK? I could just wait until I happen to see her outside the house but that doesn't happen much this time of year...

@eenymeenyminyme

The people who think I should speak to her again, how soon is OK? I could just wait until I happen to see her outside the house but that doesn't happen much this time of year...

I’d speak to her today to be honest.

Just say something along the lines of..

Sorry to bother you, just wondered if you have anyone coming to look at the Ariel as it’s banging all night and keeping me awake.

If she says no & [reason here] then just ask If it’s ok if you get someone to look and fix it (if you are willing to pay).

If she says yes then just say that’s great and give it a week or so again.

Thanks Elfie that sounds like a plan

Tell her straight it’s keeping you awake and really bothering you. I don’t think it would be wrong to speak to the other neighbour and ask if they would be willing to take a look. If you say this to the owner she’ll probably be relieved not to have to sort it out herself.

We had this and our DIY chap climbed up on a ladder and used a shit load of duct tape to secure the Ariel which was driving us insane. Didn’t actually charge us at all.

Update - neighbour has just been round to say she's getting it sorted today / Monday so she's either on here (in which case hi! 👋) or its just a funny coincidence.

Either way I'm happy that its all being resolved amicably as she's always been a lovely neighbour (which is why I didn't want to nag her about it) and I'll be able to sleep again soon!