AIBU?

[Coolmum93]

I have a 20 month old daughter and co parenting with her father.She was a surprise baby (a pleasant one).When I found out I was pregnant her dad then said he had a girlfriend and a baby on the way.The kids sre 8 months apart.
When he told his girlfriend that he had another child after my DD was born his girlfriend left him and we got together.The cheating idiot then starting sleeping with his ex behind my back and she got pregnant again.Then they got back together!
We resumed co parenting and he still was being a sly idiot sending me inappropriate messages.His gf/ mother of other kids saw these messages and banned him from talking to me.She said all contact regarding child arrangements are to be made via the grandparents so that him and I are not in contact.I flat out refused as I feel its not in the best interests of my DD if he is having her without us communicating.
Am i being unreasonable? We are going to mediation to resolve this

You should try to get back together with him as FWB and get pregnant again.

That’ll learn her.

Poor kids

First of all, my child would not be let near that woman and if I had to drop contact with her father to achieve that, then I would! Secondly, have some self respect and remove yourself from their relationship, he’s clearly not a great catch anyway. And as for that being the hand you were dealt? Nope, that was the hand you chose!

It's not really 'the hand you've been dealt', you chose him.