I don't like the Children in Need song

[Lougle]

"Why're you scared? (I'm not scared)
You'll never change what's been and gone"

Well you might never change it, but it doesn't mean it's not hard, painful or scary.

I think it's a really insensitive choice, right up there with "Welcome to Holland".

You lived through it... that’s always been the point of the song for 18 years.

Well I don't like it. It's easy for someone on the outside to say that you can't change what happened - it didn't happen to them.

Surely it's a song about surviving difficult times and looking ahead to something brighter, seems relevant. You seem very fixated on one lyric

Yanbu, unfortunately the answer to the question 'why are you scared?' for many children is 'because something completely horrible happened to me and I have ongoing trauma'.

The lyric feels like emotional bullying to me.

Many people care about children but they want a happy ending. The pain doesn't just go away for many people.

It the reality is that it happened - whatever it is you can’t change that it happened. You can heal and grow, but you can’t change the past.

Some people don't heal and grow. Some people had such a dreadful experience that tbh, the fact they are still hanging on is a testament to their bravery.

I know very well that some people don’t heal and grow, that some people barely get by - but in terms of. change it’s more possible to heal than to change what’s gone before (I was addressing the song lyric posted, not commenting on the consequences of childhood trauma).

Ughh... just listened to it.

Stop crying your heart out.

Fuck the fuck off!

I didn’t really like the choice of song out either.

“stop crying your heart out”. Makes me think that they’re accusing the person of being a crybaby. I know it’s meant to be supportive, but the lines that come across strongest to me give the opposite message.

Do think that’s it’s nicely sung though.

It should be, be scared, cry as much as you like, fear is a healthy emotion and holding the pain in damages you deeply and irreversibly whereas tears are a normal part of emotion and healing.

You do realise it’s nowhere near a new song? It’s been around for years and the original version is beautiful.

@Meepmeeep

You do realise it’s nowhere near a new song? It’s been around for years and the original version is beautiful.

It's not whether it's beautiful or not(I think it is).The message sucks especially attached to Children in Need.

Actually I think that song is very much needed right now.

You can’t change the past, no matter how much you may want to, so you’re just going to have to get on with it.

Crying about the past and wishing it was different just makes your present and your future miserable.

Had to search for song, Oasis are very talented so a good choice. Although Children in Need are very corrupt and sitting on millions upon millions of your donations when it could simply go to where it's meant to go - Children!!!!!

I'm glad I'm not the only one.

We should be saying to kids "it's ok to cry. It's ok to feel sad about this. What happened to you was wrong and crying or feeling sad isn't a mark of weakness. You are strong regardless"

Instead we tell them to stop crying their heart out?

@emilyfrost

Actually I think that song is very much needed right now.

You can’t change the past, no matter how much you may want to, so you’re just going to have to get on with it.

Crying about the past and wishing it was different just makes your present and your future miserable.

"you’re just going to have to get on with it."

To children who have been abused? They need to just 'get on with it'. WTAF.

Genuinely shocking response.

I think it worked better when Noel Gallagher sang it.

I agree. It was fine as an Oasis song, I certainly wouldn’t pick over the lyrics there. However as a charity single it comes across a bit like “just pull yourself together”. Not very sensitive.

I agree, poor song choice. I heard it on the radio yesterday and the singing sounded awful even the radio presenter said something along the lines of “please download this people, it’s for the children” because I think he knows full well that hardly anyone is going to download it on the basis that they think it sounds good.

@emilyfrost

Actually I think that song is very much needed right now.

You can’t change the past, no matter how much you may want to, so you’re just going to have to get on with it.

Crying about the past and wishing it was different just makes your present and your future miserable.

No , you can't change it,but a lot of children have lost a lot. It's ok to cry over that sometimes. It's ok to cry period. The "forced" smiles at the end of the video bother me a lot too.

Exactly. A song in general, fine. I get the sentiment. A song for the most vulnerable children in our country, who will all, in some way, have experienced loss, poverty, disability, pain, or suffering...no.

My daughter is nearly 15 now. She's starting to realise that no, she won't do GCSEs. No, she is very unlikely to ever get a driving licence. Yes, she will always need 'help'. The list goes on. She's just got special needs. She hasn't had to suffer repeated surgeries, or the loss of a sibling, or anything like as traumatic as that. Imagine that, then hearing 'stop crying, you can't change it, get on with it.'

I didn't like it, never mind the content, it just seemed another poor rendition for 'charity'.

I know what you mean. I don't like the line "stop crying your heart out" - it sounds dismissive