AIBU to conclude this friendship is over?

[BinnedOff]

Have a friend who married someone from Morocco 30 years younger. Since the new chap arrived 3 years ago, she has gone from wanting to go out regularly to never getting in touch. I have been supportive of her relationship and we haven't had any fallings out. I think she just has better fish to fry and can't be bothered with me anymore. I'm flogging a dead horse aren't I?

Am not saying definitely it is abuse, more saying it is a possibility and to not write the friend off keep the doors open.

The age was not a factor in my comments.
I have saw different levels of this weather big age gap or smart or little difference.

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@Girlzroolz

I think I’d send a gentle ‘last text’ saying you’ve got the message that she believes the friendship to have run it’s course, that you’re sad about it, and honestly wish her the best into the future. Be careful not to sound pissy or dramatic- it is all true after all.

It’ll force her to decide- either she steps up or ignores you. You’ll know where you stand, and she’ll know you value the friendship if she ever wants to re-engage (if perhaps she is having relationship problems). Then it’ll be up to you to decide if it’s the kind of friendship that suits you and your needs.

I'm a bit reluctant to force the issue. I am thinking to just not make any more overtures, but just to send the odd Christmas /birthday card to keep the pilot light going.

Everyone is starting to assume abuse.

I think some people might think that because her personality seems to have changed and she doesn’t want to talk/spend time with OP as much as she did before she met him - which could be a sign of some controlling/abusive behaviour.

It could just be that she is just a bad friend though.

I would find this very difficult if it was my friend, because I honestly think it’s extremely rare for it to be real love and attraction when the age gap is so significant. Yes, I can happen, but very rarely I think.

@Notcontent

I would find this very difficult if it was my friend, because I honestly think it’s extremely rare for it to be real love and attraction when the age gap is so significant. Yes, I can happen, but very rarely I think.

I have been supportive of the relationship but it's difficult to suppress the suspicion that the husband may not stick around when he can get indefinite right to remain after he has been in the UK for five years.