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AIBU?

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Hangry ranting

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nicknackcaddywhack · 18/11/2020 19:57

AIBU?

Warning - this is very petty and trivial but I’m hangry and have a (non corona cold).

Husband and I both work. I do 99% of cooking. Mostly cook same for family. Sometimes kids vs grown up options. Today wasn’t feeling well so husband said he’d handle the kids through the evening. Yay. Started so well.

Had made a bunch of kebab sticks for dinner earlier (little time when juggling in the evening. 13 in fact (this is relevant!). Told him that was dinner.

Was hiding upstairs (and actually working incidentally) till I got hungry and popped down for my share.

All 13 eaten. Nothing else in fridge. NOTHING.

The two kids were given 3 each, he ate the ‘remaining 7’. I pointed out half of those were mine (incidentally I had planned he’d have 4 and me 3, as he always eats more). Aggressive response is I should have told him and requested he keep them for me. WTF.

So I’m slightly sick, very starving, the fridge is empty, I’m now waiting 40 mins for an overpriced take away that I don’t want, because I didn’t call dibs on the family meal I prepared for all 4 of us like I always do. And really disappointed to think he gobbled an extra large portion, didn’t think of all the above, and sees no reason to see my point of view let alone apologise. In fact is telling me I'm unreasonable...

It’s annoying but also sad there was no reflex to even think of me when I sometimes feel I spend all my time thinking of others. It’s a minuscule example and prob very middle class problems but gah, it’s very irritating.

Is my feeling out of sorts and being hungry making me hypersensitive here (usually what I’m accused of even when not out of sorts).

Gah!

OP posts:
Blanca87 · 18/11/2020 20:04

Stop doing 99% meal cooking, as I feel this (wrongly)has bred entitlement from him. Selfish prick.

Elvesinquarantine · 18/11/2020 20:06
  • half joking as mn doesn't advocate violence but A&E would currently be assessing my dh needing kebad sticks removed from his arse cheeks... Yabu to ever make his meals in future
tuesdayschild17 · 18/11/2020 22:18

@nicknackcaddywhack I would be absolutely fuming! And I do really empathise with this situation. I do 99% of the cooking too and my partner always finishes what's left of a meal before I get the chance for seconds. IT DRIVES ME CRAZY. And quite often I have taken to taking a larger amount than I would usually eat or stating that I will definitely be having seconds before I start. I know it's petty but if I was you I would be cooking for you and the kids tomorrow and not him. I'd then say 'well you should have requested that you wanted some dinner in advance' and wait for his reaction Grin.

EKGEMS · 18/11/2020 23:26

This isn't a middle class problem ffs-this is a you're married to a selfish,entitled asshole who is a glutinous pig who doesn't respect you

HollowTalk · 18/11/2020 23:30

@EKGEMS

This isn't a middle class problem ffs-this is a you're married to a selfish,entitled asshole who is a glutinous pig who doesn't respect you
Exactly this.

Why is it a class problem? It's a husband problem - he's incredibly greedy and selfish and a complete and utter twat.

MoiJeJous · 18/11/2020 23:44

You need to stop doing 99% of the cooking. He doesn’t sound like a caring person and I think you need to raise that before it evolves into an even bigger problem.

Krampusasbabysitter · 19/11/2020 00:27

Stop cooking for him. Simple!

EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 19/11/2020 01:04

cook for you and the children for a while - see if he gets the message

Tolleshunt · 19/11/2020 01:07

What a greedy, selfish bastard. Cook just for you and the kids tomorrow, and then act like he’s the one in the wrong when he protests.

FourPlatinumRings · 19/11/2020 01:07

YANBU. Selfish greedy git.

TheDowagerDuchess · 19/11/2020 01:11

How thoughtless and nasty - and selfish - of him!

I mean he must have known some were for you and that you’d want food. The onus was on him to check if in any doubt, not for you to point out that you needed food like any other human.

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