To send my DS to nursery even though I’m a SAHM?

[Dinosaur19]

Pre COVID I worked 3 days per week and DS (almost 2) went to nursery those days. He loved it and was thriving. Fast forward to now, I was unfortunately made redundant in September, DS hasn’t been to nursery since March (was furloughed March - September and didn’t see the point in paying nursery when I was home). Anyway now I’m 20 weeks pregnant and could really do with a rest occasionally. DH still working full time but does plenty in his non working hours. AIBU for considering sending DS to nursery one day a week even though I’m a ‘SAHM’ although not through choice

Do it

Of course YANBU! My youngest went 2-3 mornings a week.

Nursery is good for kids, I would do the same! Especially at the minute with limited groups on etc for them to socialise with others! Also will do you good to get a break!

Thanks for replies, I guess as I’m home I feel like I have no real reason to send him, but as pp said it is good for them (and me)!

Could you wait until he was a little older (2.5) and then opt for a preschool? It's much cheaper and you'd still get the break and he would still get the benefit. That's what I did when I gave up work.

I sent my two dc to a pre school despite being a SAHM. They went two mornings a week from being two and then increased to 12 hours a week when they turned 3. It was great, the staff were really lovely.

I did it. My DC benefited massively. It would even better for your DC since at the moment it’ll be the only way for him to hang out with his friends and play.

By the time he’s 2.5 the baby will be born and I really want to get him settled back into nursery way before then, I think a new baby then back to nursery might be too much change for him!

Lots of famies do it. Also a lot of families get free nursery time of 15 hours from 3 and sometimes before, so it might not even be a huge cost.
But remember nursery doesn't suit all of them. There are also childminders.

I sent mine to preschool from 3, the structure was better than nursery especially for dd1 who has asd. I had them at home until then, it wasn't easy having a toddler with asd and a newborn but I would have found having to get her to nursery on time harder

Mine went to nursery one day a week at that age and loved it.

I would do it!

I have a 7 month old and a 3 year old.
I felt really guilty, but I increased my Daughters days in nursery from 1 to 3 while on maternity leave as it is really hard work. I started having seizures because of the stress and tiredness.

I think if you need a break, you need a break. Nursery is good for them, and they get the opportunity to learn and also play with their friends.

If you can afford to, fill your boots and don't feel guilty!

Can you easily afford it if you don't get another job for some time (if you're planning to do this, of course)? Having a day to yourself is a nice luxury only if money is not tight.

My DD started at 20month when i was pregnant, 2x3hr sessions. DH was away with the Army. It was the only break I got to do things like go to the Midwife. Younger DD started at 2 years old.

I really think it’s fine! It’s also fine not to.

Absolutely up to you. If you need a rest that’s as good a reason as any!

I changed jobs so I now work opposite shifts to my husband and I kept my daughter in nursery. She does 3 mornings a week, gets to run around with her friends that she wouldn't otherwise be able to see at the moment, and time away from my youngest. Its a win win situation for us. Long as the child is happy there I don't see the problem

I did, wasn't a SAHM but used it during maternity leaves & on my days off when I wanted time off (work pt). Im tto & still use childcare in the holidays for them & for me!