IABU to not want to meet vulnerable ex MIL?

[TheOrigRights]

ex MIL has the keys to her ex DH's flat. They are meant to be in a key safe outside the flat so that I (who has POA - ex FIL is in a care home), can get in.

She couldn't work they keys out so just took them with her. I need to get in today. I asked her to leave them outside her house hidden somewhere, but she's insistent that she wants to meet.

For context she is over 80, has had cancer twice and pneumonia, but pretends she doesn't know what the lockdown rules are. She says she doesn't mind and I have repeatedly said that I mind.

I have a son at school, I do volunteer work and am meeting one person outside my household (when I can!) for exercise ie my risk of getting Covid is low but still there.

WWYD?

Go to her house, stand 2m away and tell her to put the keys down or throw them to you.

So meet her. But make it outside and socially distanced. I live alone and even a 30 second interaction with my daughter on her doorstep for a similar errand yesterday, lifted my spirits. We were easily three metres away from each other, her indoors, me out. No risk, but a huge lift to my lonely lockdown spirits.

Be kind - and safe.

Oh she has plenty of social interaction - is married, walks her dogs, lives in town.

The flat is inside a main building. She wants to come in with me.

Me not wanting to put her at risk IS being kind.

slimshady I might just call her back and say I'm really not happy to meet.

@TheOrigRights Is she willing to socially distance? IF she won't accept a contactless handover, wear gloves, a mask and an apron and douse yourself in hand sanitiser in front of her. If she can't see that your concern for her is real, then it is no longer on you!

Get some keys cut (if there is somewhere open to do this)

An update for anyone that's interested!

I told my SIL (MIL's DD) what MIL wanted to do, and she was fine with it, so I thought, what the hell....it's not on me (as tues says).

She was late and all la de da about it. Drives me batty. She knew I was on a tight schedule with needing to be at the care home for a visit. Was about to leave when she turned up.

Turns out the estate agent selling the flat double locked the door but the keys in the key safe only have one key. Called the estate agent, left a message, told MIL I would handle it, took the keys with me.

Visited FIL, called estate agent again and got through only to find MIL was in their office getting the keys herself. They didn't know whether to release them to her (she has nothing to do with the flat or her ex DH legally), so I told them to phone SIL.

SIL asked estate agent to accompany MIL to flat so that full set of keys could be left in key safe (so I can bloody well get in when I need to).