AIBU to ask you to give me a huge kick up the arse

[Needsakickupthearse]

Just fell to pieces. There was a huge huntsman in my DD's room. I tried to hide my fear in front of her because I don't want her to think she needs to be scared, but I was sweating and shaking the whole time I was trying to catch him. It's an hour later now and I'm still shaking. I feel sick. My heart is racing. Everywhere I look I'm afraid there will be another.

I haven't even been back into her bedroom yet to finish tidying because I'm scared there will be another one.

I've lived here for years now. I've had deadly snakes in my house that I've managed to deal with calmly. I've cheerfully taken photos of huge saltwater crocodiles sitting on the embankment. I tut at cockroaches and then amble off to get the raid spray. I'm normally the level headed one in my house. But huntsman? I just can't deal with them. Whenever I see one I am utterly panick stricken. I don't feel in control of my actions. It's ridiculous.

I'm so ashamed. I will never forgive myself if my DD inherits my phobia. Can someone please give me a huge kick up the arse? I need to knock this on the head, but I don't know how.

Where are you? Queensland?

Not sure what we can say, but maybe see a phobia specialist, sure when I see them I do jump and am a bit nervous but I just have to deal with it, DH is more scared than me as he did not grow up in Australia but if he has to deal with it he does he just does a Ned Flanders scream first

Yes, I'm in Queensland

Crikey

Hand hold 💐

You need a vacuum cleaner, luv.

@seayork2020

Ned Flanders scream excellent 😆

But then what do you do once it's in the vacuum? I have tried this before and the bastards just run around in there (I have a handheld Dyson so I can see what's happening in there...) When I open it to empty it they cling on! They resist being dumped out onto the ground!

Vacuum cleaner, ya mean flame thrower!!

I'm so ashamed. I will never forgive myself if my DD inherits my phobia. Can someone please give me a huge kick up the arse? I need to knock this on the head, but I don't know how.

This is an incredibly harsh way of thinking about yourself - I think it would be worse for your daughter to inherit this self-bullying than to inherit the spider phobia!!

You can't force yourself not to be afraid. Phobias just are. You need to see a specialist and you need to give yourself a break

Just move down the road to New South Wales. Less scary wildlife.

I’m with you OP. I can handle poisonous snakes but almost any spider will freak me out. Got closer to a white tail on the patio than I would like yesterday. My neighbour rescued me as DH was out.

I don’t think I have come across a huntsman yet. But they’ll be able to hear my screaming in Darwin if I do.

@befuddledperson

I hadn't really thought of it that way before. And you are of course right, I definitely don't want my DD to be in the habit of beating herself up about stuff. I think I just get annoyed at myself because I know there's no logical reason to fear them.

Humans are not really very logical

You will be able to improve things, but you have to treat it like a phobia imo, and with phobias bullying doesn't work.

@WattleOn

I’m with you OP. I can handle poisonous snakes but almost any spider will freak me out. Got closer to a white tail on the patio than I would like yesterday. My neighbour rescued me as DH was out.

I don’t think I have come across a huntsman yet. But they’ll be able to hear my screaming in Darwin if I do.

I was home alone in my mums boyfriends place for the weekend (many years ago) and I looked up and there was a massive hunstman on the wall next to me. I was thankful they had a an extra long broom so I took it outside

Spray into the vacuum cleaner and suck that up toooooo

@justilou1 There is really no need to be so cruel. They are harmless.