To think I should go to the police

[goforwards]

Me and my ex husband are divorced and have been separated for 3 years. We have children together. He has a child with his partner and she's pregnant. I'm pregnant too and not with the father ( a casual thing, my mental health took a a dip) my ex noticed I have a bump the other day and then went mental at me because I'm pregnant, saying I'm making gum existing kids lives harder. Texting me calling me disgusting and that I'm scum. He even went as far as to say not to announce my pregnancy because he doesn't want anyone to know as people might think it's his so I better not announce anything to anyone he knows or in any way his partner could find out.. should I go to the police for his abusive messages as he's said I will see a different side to him now. He's the reason for my mental health taking a massive dip ( he was abusive in our marriage) he doesn't have to agree to my life choices but does that really give him the right to call me scum??

He doesn’t sound very pleasant, however unless there’s more to the story - an ex calling you scum and a few nasty messages is not really a police matter, unless they were particularly threatening.

@goforwards Unless he has directly threatened you, there is nothing that the police can do. If you've got set visiting hours for your children then block him from sending you messages, but allow calls for an emergency. If you can't do this, ignore all of his texts/messages unless they directly relate to arrangements for the children. You shouldn't even be discussing his opinion on your pregnancy with him.

Keep the texts - copy them just in case things escalate.
Ignore what he says - he's nothing to you now, so don't be dictated to by him.
Tell who you want, when you want.

Just ignore OP but kept a record as others have said. HE is the problem, not you,

Keep the texts. Sounds like he just can't stand the thought of you being pregnant but of course it's completely okay for him to have another child but you, no way! How dare you OP.
It's one way he is trying to get in your head. He's done the exact same thing yet you're scum? .
Ignore that twat. He just wants to abuse you even more don't let him get in your head.

He sounds a monster. But I don't think the police can do much at this stage. Tell him that your life is none of his business.

He sounds mad. Why is it ok for him to have more children but not you ?
Why on earth would someone think it's his baby if you've been separated for three years ?

Log it with non emergency number but as others have said it’s not really a police matter. I’d say log it so they have a record in case his behaviour escalates.

He sounds like a dick but nit a police issue.

Not even, not nit

I think you need to draw a line for him that the only reason he contacts you is regarding the kids. Breaching this line means you will involve the Police. I hope this descalates the situation which is none of his business.

His behaviour is unacceptable and yes the Police will have a word if needed.

Are you feeling harassed alarmed or distressed by the messages? If so then he has committed harassment. If this kind of behaviour is a one off then it would not really constitute a crime, harassment is a course of conduct usually over a 6 months ish period.
Let him know if you feel comfortable how you feel harassed by his messages, then if he continues he has no defence that he didn’t know how his behaviour was making you feel.

I disagree with those saying its not a police matter, sounds like verbal assault / harassment to me. I woukd teport it on the non urgent number and ask for their advice (which may not be very good).

I'm a police officer. This is not a police matter.

He sounds like a dickhead tho.

Unless he threatens you its not a police matter. But you need to keep them incase he gets worse.

Congratulations on your baby, dont let anyone make you feel bad, especially not that tosser.