My husbands brother got a new girlfriend 2 years ago.
My husband and his brother have always been really close so the 4 of us started to arrange nights out together.
His girlfriend started to make more of an effort with me and started to suggest just the two of us meet up.
We’ve met up several times and I have enjoyed her company, but she’s very very up and down.
One week she will message me constantly and be all happy, the following week she won’t speak to me for a week or two!
I can message her and she won’t reply, or her replies will be short and direct.
I literally never know where I stand with her.
She’s quite a moody person and there have been times when we’ve met up and she won’t speak for the first hour, then she kinda “defrosts” and will speak.
She’s also very vocal on social media, she will post about hating herself, how she thinks she’s a rubbish mum, she’s feeling down etc and then her next post (5 minutes later) will be about how happy she is and how much she loves her life.
She had a new baby (as do I) but her behaviour is not related to being a new mum as she has been like this since I’ve known her.
She’s suggested recently that we start going for walks with the babies, but if I’m honest I just don’t want to go.
I really don’t think we are that great of friends and if it wasn’t for the fact that she was with my husbands brother then I wouldn’t really stay in contact with her.
I don’t want to fall out with her and I’d like to be on speaking terms but I just don’t think I want to be meeting up with her just us two.
I find her really difficult and I feel on edge around her never knowing what mood she is going to be in.
What can I say to her? Should I go on the walk and try to give her a other chance?