To expect exh to have children for more than a weeks holiday in summer?

[hitachi]

Just that really. My exh refuses to have kids for More than five days of his holidays in the summer. They are off school from mid June to end of August ..not in UK.
He believes that because I am a teacher that I am responsible for them full time.
There is no way they would ever be anywhere else but with me through holidayS if he refuses to have them, but at the same time rather than discussing arrangements, his attitude is...’ you’re off on holidays anyway...’
He is right, I am but surely five days out of his yearly quota is meagre at best?
Plus he refuses to contribute to camps for activities during holidays as they will be with me all day.
Any advice? We are back negotiating next years arrangements soon and I would appreciate your views please . I am tired as two of my
Children have mild extra needs and life can be exhausting at times . He sees kids eow and a couple of hours during the week .thanks .

It should be 50/50, even if that means he has to pay for childcare if he needs to work.

Does he still see the kids EOW and a couple hours during the week during school holidays? If so you are being unreasonable

My advice is that you don't try to force someone to have their children more often than they want to, because it's A) Impossible and B) Not in the interests of the children.

It's shit but there you go.

Does he actually have a reason why a request to have a week off work during this time might be refused? I doubt it though (for example if you were working on the Edinburgh Festival which is in August), as I think he would have said.

50:50 unless you have an official arrangement that says different

Certainly he should have them for more than one week of his leave. But if I’ve learn anything from contact threads on MN is that you just can’t make NRPs do it if they’re inclined to be selfish.

@Leaannb

Does he still see the kids EOW and a couple hours during the week during school holidays? If so you are being unreasonable

Yes OP. Your Ex is an absolute hero for doing the absolute minimum that any parent should be required to do. Your ridiculous expectations are shocking. Next thing you’ll be demanding he pays more than the legal minimum in maintenance so you can splash out on diamond shoes and vodka. Shame on you.