To think I'm aging at 28

[arcticmonkeys]

This year I have noticed very fine lines on my forehead and around my and that look worse with make-up on and my hair feels a little thinner (not sure if that related to having a baby, although DS is nearly 2). AIBU to think I'm aging at 28? Am I no longer in my prime?

This will continue, if you're lucky.

I feel like since having DC I’ve massively aged

Do you have a skincare regime? Water? Sleep deprived?!

No way. You're not 30 yet. A woman isn't even in her prime until her 30s.

Also I looked haggard after having my youngest, I didn't even recognise myself. But I started running, lost weight, took vitamins and bought better makeup and now it's all good

We're all aging. Better than the alternative.

Having kids ages you. I had twins at thirty. Before I had then people were asking me what A-levels I was going to take when I go into sixth form... I was a middle management civil servant. Never was mistaken for being so young after no sleep for years!! However, I’m 40 now and the kids say “ooh you look so young” when they see photos
from a few years ago 🤷‍♀️ Can’t win...

I had frown lines in my late teens and throughout my 20’s despite having a great diet, loads of water , non smoker /drinker etc.
No idea why, sooo depressing when I was younger. I had my first child at 28 and they got worse with each dc. Had all my kids by 33 and got Botox at 35 (something I thought I’d never do) , my lines were very deep and severe , it literally looked like there were two massive creases in forehead.
I look so much better now at 35 and I exercise regularly and finally finally sleeping now all the dcs are!

This will continue, if you're lucky.

Agree with this. I hated losing my looks at your age. 10 years and a few bereavements later, I see ageing as a privilege. That’s not to lecture you though OP - I know it’s tough to come to terms with! Focus on doing the things that’ll make you feel better about yourself - eating/sleeping well, etc. Of course you’re not past your prime - we just live in a culture than venerates youth above wisdom/experience, and it’s hard to shake off that conditioning.

Look on the bright side. no chance Boris Johnson or Silvio Berlusconi will be interested in you.

It certainly speeds up when you have kids - although someone I'm close to told me today I look 33 when I'm nearly 40!

Being 34 was ok.
Being 35 suddenly created these problems, like a lightswitch.

I stopped getting ID'd.
Being invited out less often.
Lower energy levels.
Lines started appearing as per OP.
Hair getting lighter.

For me it was some time after my second DC was born when I was 32 that I suddenly noticed some changes. I gained (and lost) 4 stone with each pregnancy which may have contributed to a definite loss of firmness in my skin, and I realised I had a few fine lines round my eyes, and my neck looked a bit looser. I had quite full cheeks in my early 20s and they’ve changed but in some ways that looks ok as my face has more definition somehow - I don’t drink or smoke and I look after my skin so overall I still feel I look ok.

Ah it is a hard period of time, but the feeling passes eventually. I'm 31 and I've accepted that I'm past being 'hot' and stopped comparing myself to 20 year olds. If you take care of yourself though, you can feel good at any age.

Yabu to this k m

Of course you’re aging. I don’t think you’d like the alternative
.

Get fat.

I'm a hefer but often get told I look much younger than I am

Botox can get rid of those easily.Its not for everyone but it works.

Your prime would have been late teens to early 20's, but there is more to life than looks. Enjoy your DC. I'm the same age as you and have also started noticing the ageing. But nothing beats the good times I have with my 4 year old. Those moments are precious.

I'm 31 and the last few months I've become quite aware of my forehead creases!

Drink water- lots of water, use moisturiser, get outside as much as you can, and take vitamins!

I’m 29 & my neighbour told me I didn’t look any older than 25 the other day. But I never get ID’d anymore so I think she’s lying. & I have a 3 & 1 yo... yeah, she’s definitely lying.

I'm a few years older than you and I started ageing at 28 too.. thinner hair and wrinkles below my eyes!

Im 50band I think you can be a bit depleted after having a baby. I felt younger when my baby (now 17) was 3 - 4 than i did when she was a baby.

My hair has always been very thick so i could afford to lose some but when i made a cake for her first bd there was HAIR in it 😮😳

Of course ageing is a privilege but that doesn’t mean you don’t have to feel sad about looking older! I saw a photo of me when I was 25 the other day and just put my hands up to my face like The Scream. I love being in my thirties for the fact that it was like a switch flicking and I suddenly realised I didn’t give that much of a shit about all the things I’d worried about before. But GOD I wish I looked 25 again!