To have said no to h? Lockdown related

[MrsPear]

Hi
So h just informed me he has invited his family for lunch. I said no we are suppose to be in lockdown. We are in England. He has cancelled. Gone in a sulk. So am I wrong? He says I’ve misunderstood everything. Everything apparently is still open. I’ve only been to the end of the high street where the supermarket is so I don’t know. Is everyone having in home social events? Have I completely misunderstood ?

Maybe get your DH to look at the rules in the government website. He is the one who has misunderstood! I know there has been lots of confusion over the months, but the basics are pretty simple. Where has he been? Does he not watch the news? And yes more shops are open than before, but they still have to be classed as essential. (I.e the pet shop is open which is wasn’t before). And others are open for click and collect. You can’t actually go in and browse etc ...

Your husband is a prick

You too @Spanielmadness if you’re in England and just ignoring rules

God I don’t know how people do it! When we first went into a tier 3 situation I visited some relatives, because I lost my marbles for a moment. I was seeing so many people posting on fb where they’d broken the rules basically and no one was calling them out on it. So I thought why am I being a chump? And visited said relatives.

For the first time in my life I actually had insomnia, I couldn’t sleep and was sick with worry they would get fined. I don’t care if I get in trouble but I k ow those particularly relatives would be so embarrassed etc by it. I just couldn’t break the rules since then, I can’t deal with the stress of it.

(Apart from the fact it’s actually a stupid selfish thing to do).

@tigger001

Your husband is also right, sadly everywhere IS still open, but do let that sidetrack you from whats right to keep as safe as you can.

Most small independent shops, bars, cafes, restaurants, hairdressers, beauticians, soft plays, museums, tourist attractions, gyms, swimming pools, hotels... all closed. Stop talking shit.

Plus I’m pretty sure you know you haven’t ‘misunderstood’, OP. It’s another of those disingenuous ‘am I the only one following the rules’ threads.

I'm not a good little law obeying drone at all, but I had a cup of tea on my mum's front garden today rather than sit in. I'd rather a few weeks of boredom than a Christmas lockdown (which I will cheerfully ignore).

OP's husband and Spanielmadness are complete twats, although I'm sure will be regaled with a tale of relentless woe that excuses her bad behaviour shortly 🙄

Fuck me. This is so depressing.

And yes. Your husband is an utter dick. As is spanielmadness and anyone else doing this shit.

@Meatshake

I'm not a good little law obeying drone at all, but I had a cup of tea on my mum's front garden today rather than sit in. I'd rather a few weeks of boredom than a Christmas lockdown (which I will cheerfully ignore).

OP's husband and Spanielmadness are complete twats, although I'm sure will be regaled with a tale of relentless woe that excuses her bad behaviour shortly 🙄

So if you break the rules now you’re a twat, but it’s fine to do it at Christmas? 🤣

And were you expected to cook for them?

Well, you kind of knew you'd get all the 'your dh is stupid and selfish' replies that you wanted, right?

@WhoopsSomethingWentWrong

Plus I’m pretty sure you know you haven’t ‘misunderstood’, OP. It’s another of those disingenuous ‘am I the only one following the rules’ threads.

Yeah, exactly this. Yawn.

So if you break the rules now you’re a twat, but it’s fine to do it at Christmas?

I will be keeping the rules at Christmas, but surely most people can see a difference between a random November Sunday and Christmas Day.

I will be keeping the rules at Christmas, but surely most people can see a difference between a random November Sunday and Christmas Day

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not particularly bothered what others do and when. Just thought the double standards was amusing.

I mean, Covid isn’t going to have a day off for Christmas, is it?

@PiperPiper20

And were you expected to cook for them?

Bet she was!

Like the way he told you you were wrong, then when you showed him the rules that shifted to 'you're the only one following them'. I would now just go with telling him 'I can't stop you behaving stupidly but stop talking nonsense about it. We both know it's not allowed'.

Everything isn’t still open! Just essential shops.

I wish people would stop banging this drum (your h not you OP). The things that are open have been judged necessary because of what happened in the last lockdown. Like keeping schools open, allowing bubbles etc

Garden centres have proved to be beneficial to a lot of people, essential to their well being even. Plus they are outdoor.

It does NOT mean that you should be allowed all and sundry round when you already have the other half of the couple or whatever adults you live with for company. Not sitting down to a meal or a coffee or whatever with another adult for months was soul destroying last time, only having grown up conversations over zoom or with someone at the end of your path.

People are fucking this more merciful lockdown up for those who need the support by saying things like “oh everything’s open” or “everyone’s doing it”.

Well my sisters just been to visit my elderly mum (inside her house)!! My mum lives with my brother so she is not in a support bubble (mum has no care needs). Sister was leaving early to pick her DD/my niece up who has been at a sleepover (but its ok as its a child she plays with at school)!!! My next door neighbours have had several indoor visitors yesterday and today. I think some people just think the rules don’t apply to them.

YANBU op but your DH is a prize plonker.

No but if they stop being twats now likely we can have a relatively normal Christmas, isn't that the point? By the time Christmas rolls round I think I'll have to take a "if you can't beat them, join them" approach as opposed to sitting on my todd watching the world have fun.

Well yes technically of course you're right, but I think the bemused "what have I said" act is slightly disingenuous! Whether MN approves or not a lot of people are deciding to see close family now. If you don't want to that's fine, and a perfectly valid point of view. But don't pretend to not understand why, for example, he might want to see his mum. People taking matters into their own hands, and undertaking their own risk assessments when it comes to seeing family, is becoming common now.

You are right. Though there are quite a few selfish fuckwits like your DH.

All he had to do was not see anyone (other than one person from another household, outdoors and socially distanced) for four weeks. If he and every other selfish twat who doesn't think the rules apply to him could gather all their clearly minimal brain cells together and realise we're doing it for the greater good then we wouldn't be in the situation we're in now. Bellend.

People taking matters into their own hands, and undertaking their own risk assessments when it comes to seeing family, is becoming common now.

You can dress it up like that if you want, but it’s effectively just selfish people choosing to break the law.

I would have just had them round tbh.

I’m at the in-laws having Sunday lunch at the moment

FFS, no wonder we still have this poxy virus in the country.

@MrsPear

I read through the rules with h and he just laughed and said I’m the only idiot who is obeying them now. Well he has gone out - probably to his sisters. At least I’ve had some confirm I’m not the only idiot. 😂

Sounds like a right selfish idiot who is breaking the law!