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Mother help

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2babymumma · 14/11/2020 23:10

Bit of a sensitive subject here and I'm out of ideas

Bit of back ground:

My mother- late 60's lost her husband 4 years ago.

She has a social life. A group of friends, holidays, a rented home. A man she dates. Plenty of family.

She lied about all the below for months until she was stuck.

She was fraud of all her money 3 years ago from someone posing as a phone company, we sorted her out financially, got her a home to rent etc etc. Felt for her.

10m later she falls in love with a guy who added her on fb. The rest of her money- gone.

Then again on a app game rent money gone

We've tried the police- she went out when they had arranged to come round

We tried the doctor thinking mental health- she lied and wouldn't let us be in control as such.

We've lost contact, she's lost childcare responsibilities of her grandchildren as she give her address out and has pics of them etc etc putting them at risk.

Yet today I log into my social media to a thing saying people I may know and a strange name and low and behold friends with my mum!!!!

I message her asking who he is- a African guy I met on a gaming app.

Here we go again! I can't deal with it anymore. We tried being kind, getting help and being supportive but I'm actually done now.

Am I wrong? I've deleted her from my social media as I don't want my children at risk. I've told her not to contact me.

I'm also pregnant and can't have the stress right now.

Help

OP posts:
LouiseTrees · 14/11/2020 23:14

Go NC. She doesn’t seem the type to be told. I also note you say your mum lost her husband ( ie he wasn’t your dad).

2babymumma · 14/11/2020 23:25

Sorry what's NC? Not my dad no. They've been split up 30 odd years

OP posts:
LouiseTrees · 14/11/2020 23:32

No contact.

2babymumma · 14/11/2020 23:33

Makes total sense now you've said it!

I'm so cross! Thank you. 4 years of this I'm at breaking point

OP posts:
LouiseTrees · 14/11/2020 23:37

It’s not your obligation to look after her

helloxhristmas · 14/11/2020 23:51

If she can't recognise the behaviour I'd walk away.

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