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Friends constant drama with drug using ex

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Forthe99thtime · 14/11/2020 21:47

I have a friend of over a decade and for the duration he has been on and off with a dysfunctional woman who uses hard drugs and is a sex worker. Their frequent break ups result in his unstable mental health taking a nose dive.

Every time she leaves him for somebody else or does him out of money he comes to me. I console him every time and suggest he washes his hands of the situation because it's toxic. He agrees and vows that he never wants to see her again.

He began seeing a new woman 6 months or so ago who seemed lovely and completely uncomplicated unlike his ex.

He came into money recently and was telling all and sundry. This happened long after he started seeing the new woman so it wasn't as though she was after him for that.

He told us a couple of weeks ago that he ended the relationship with new woman because she told him she loved him for the first time and he thought that was because he'd told her about the money so apparently it was a "red flag"

It came to be that he's involved with the drug using ex again and that's why he dumped his girlfriend.

He told me this much.

I told him he was being ridiculous even thinking about going back there, not least because she will be the one after his money.

He has in short told me to mind my own business and said that's between him and her, which is fine except for the fact he has been making it my business for a decade by coming to me to vent, offload and use me as a sounding board.

AIBU to draw a line in the sand and say I have no interest in hearing about this ridiculously toxic set up any more so not to bother me with his dramatics?

OP posts:
Cloudfrost · 14/11/2020 22:12

Yanbu, ur friend is a twat and at the moment has more money than sense. Next time they break up tell him u don't want to hear it

WorldsNumber1MumSuperAwesome · 14/11/2020 22:45

Listen here queen, friends are meant to uplift you, not weigh you down, tell him if she's going to be in his life, then your not. He's clearly on her hook and this will be for the best. Either you lose a bad, borderline toxic friend, or he's finally done with her once and for all.

Stay fierce gurl!!!

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