I've been with him for 4 years, we live together, happy relationship.
However he is bad with money. It's never stopped him paying his share, but I wont go into the details: it does stop me from wanting to intertwine our financial lives too much. On top of that, we have been in a little bit of a tug of war about location. He loves where we live as it's his home turf. I'm happy here for the time being but at some point I know I will want a change. I dont want to be stuck with a house that will be difficult to sell on or rent out because he could block it.
I know this sounds really cynical but I gave read so many stories of sticky situations that people have got themselves into here because of stuff like this. At the same time I am in my 30s and would like to own a home.
So:
WIBU to buy a house without him? I am imagining he will be hurt by this. Is it unreasonable?
Secondly in these situations, what does the person who doesnt own the house pay? It feels wrong to split a mortgage payment as obviously the mortgage would be mine. So what do people do? What is fair? I am getting ahead of myself here but just wondering.