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To ask if we are the ONLY family who have NEVER done Xmas stockings

243 replies

StevieBud · 13/11/2020 00:04

Every year on MN I see all these threads asking for suggestions for stuff to put into stockings and people reply suggesting all kinds of tat.

Or boring stuff like new toothbrushes.

Presents should be under the tree, opened at dawn before consuming a box of Matchmakers.

OP posts:
ZoeTurtle · 13/11/2020 10:26

We never did them either. I don't really understand them.

TheGoogleMum · 13/11/2020 10:29

I didnt have them as a child, I was surprised to discover it seemed like everyone else did! I did get a huge sack of presents though I didnt feel deprived (still got stocking filler type presents just in my sack with everything else!). DD is only 2 but we bought a stocking last year so I guess we're doing it for her (DH had one growing up)

Angel2702 · 13/11/2020 10:38

The kids love the stockings as did we growing up. They are the presents from Father Christmas and most important in our house. Lots of usuals bits they wouldn’t see in the shops. Definitely not boring at all they are an important tradition we wouldn’t miss out.

Mia1415 · 13/11/2020 10:45

YABVU Some of my best memories of Christmas was waking up to discover that Santa had filled my stocking up at the end of my bed during the night and then excitedly bringing it in to my parents and opening everything on their bed. I love the fact that my DS now does the same thing with me.

Tree presents are not opened until after Breakfast

CakeRequired · 13/11/2020 10:49

Ours just contain chocolate. But it's still awesome.

People who complain about tat at Christmas just make me laugh. You aren't obligated to buy tat you know? You could use that thing inside your head called a brain and buy stuff the person would want, not just stuff with Xmas written on it. Grin

TheSoapyFrog · 13/11/2020 10:54

I only recently learned that not everyone did stockings. It was the best bit of the day for me as a child and it's the bit my boys get the most excited about. We've said the stocking presents come from Father Christmas so it makes it more magical for them.
What's even better is that the boys unwrap and play with these presents so we have time to wake up and get dressed ourselves before breakfast.

RaaRaaeee · 13/11/2020 11:14

Completely agree 100%. Never had one as a child, don't do them now for the kids either. They sound like a faff and waste of time and money! Gifts go under the tree and are all opened as soon as you wake up. Thankyou OP, I thought I was alone in this, all my friends say my behaviour is mean but really who wants a stocking stuffed with tat and then be made to wait till after dinner for the main event? Not me!

SingleHandSue · 13/11/2020 11:23

We definitely haven’t done stockings to keep dc occupied whilst we sleep in, as soon they wake they bring them in to us and open them on our bed.

It’s definitely my favourite part of the day and even though they’re 19 and 15 they still do the same thing of coming in to our room to look through their stockings with us!

I did the same when I was younger, I’d grab my stocking and round up my brothers to all pile in to mum’s room to go through them excitedly seeing what Father Christmas had brought.

RufustheSniggeringReindeer · 13/11/2020 11:24

Didnt have one as a child but have stockings as decoration on the mantelpiece so i take them down and pack them full of sweets for my 3

I did have to buy one for ds1 partner 😀 but still only sweets

JanewaysBun · 13/11/2020 11:28

I did as a kid but not so much as a teen.

Love51 · 13/11/2020 11:36

With tat though, one man's meat is another man's poison. So if you list some things you give your child, some people think "that's a good idea, my child would love that", others think "that's rubbish,no one here would like that" and others might think it is boring.
FC always brings something wooden that the elves made, my children have this week been playing with a cup and ball that one of them got for Christmas a few years ago. Sounds dull, but they like it!
Nail varnish wouldn't go down at all well here, or temporary tattoos, but their cousins love that sort of thing.

Mine get something to wash with, which started as those expanding flannels, one year DD had Disney "tangled" themed spray to detangle your hair after washing, which was used for months. Something in the way of a notepad and pen, but more exciting like that (eg with scratch paper or pen that only shows up under UV light). And usually a card game, like top trumps or Dobble or Uno. We play those a fair but but may have hit saturation point and might not need any more this year. I might buy DS some popcorn this year if I can think of something similar for his sister.
Plus sweets, an apple, and a satsuma (Cox's orange pippin, my mum used to do it!)
Most of those things are consumables - (notebooks get used a lot here) so only the card games / wooden toys actually hang around the house til the following Christmas.

mam0918 · 13/11/2020 11:41

we always had stocking but they where never a big thing, just some sweets in them however I find your anger at the OTT

do I find it wierd to gift a tooth brush or pants - yes
do I find it wierd to spend £50 on a stocking - yes
do I find it wierd for it to be the 'main event'- yes
do I find the 'its from santa' thing wierd - yes
but
does it effect my life in anyway if others have different traditions - no

people do things different, its not worth flipping your top over.

I only get 'mad' about stockings when people get all self righteous about them and their way being right (and your being self righteous about the opposit which is equally as bad)

caperplips · 13/11/2020 11:42

We had stockings growing up in Ireland, and it was Santy who brought them and the pile of toys (all unwrapped but displayed really nicely)
We never had anything upstairs. Our 'stockings' (school tights one memorable year!) were hung on the mantlepiece and that's where they stayed. Myself and my sister had a side of the fireplace each and our presents were all arranged there.

It was wildly exciting to creep down stairs trying to peep in the slightly open door of the sitting room to 'see if he'd come yet'. My dad made a great effort with this - he always led the way and would say stuff like 'don't be disappointed if he hasn't been yet, we'll go back to bed for an hour' or 'hope we don't catch him in our sitting room, close your eyes and I'll check' etc we were really riled up with excitement by the time we got in the door!

One year we also got pre-made stockings from a place similar to Hawkins Baazar and I can still remember the sheer joy of all that 'tat' - fake witch fingers with long nails you could put over your own fingers, magic tricks, spinning tops etc - total rubbish but we were enchanted as we'd never had / seen most of the stuff. I got a bike that year, which I knew was for me to cycle to school and back. I never asked for it and I didn't want it really. I remember as I was oohing and aahing my way through the stocking of tat my mother saying 'look caperclips did you see your new bike?' and me - barely glancing at it 'yes, but look at this whoopee cushion ' Grin she must have been fit to kill me!

We now do a mix of really nice things and cheaper things in teen dd's stocking - this year she's getting stuff like an apple charger, hotel chocolat treats, percy pigs, monogrammed soap from Anthropologie, Studio Ghibli night light and a sort of illuminated snow globe, Japanese edible treats, Lush products, monogrammed mug from Anthropologie, beauty face masks, nail polish and a couple of other small things

We now do stockings for each other and I have ordered a few things for mine as I was making an order from Anthropologie so added them in but dh will finish it off.

So far I have beautiful socks, liberty pattern facemasks, a set of small bowls for nuts / olives (they're really small), mini champagne, hotel chocolat - dh will add a couple of other things, based on other years it could be a book, makeup (a nice eyeshadow palette), luxury soap (which I love), a really nice drinking glass (another thing I really love) a mug from the set we collect

For dh I have a multi use tool, mini champagne, a table tennis set (will actually be too big for the stocking) a mug, a lovely whiskey glass, pork scratchings (YUK) cherry liqueur dark chocolates, fancy socks, a science magazine, chilli sauce, toblerone

I think there is something really nice about having a little pile of luxuries just for yourself - for me there's nothing nicer than spending an afternoon during the holidays when all the visiting / hosting is done and being able to relax with nice chocolates, a little bottle of fizz and a new book or nail painting with a movie or music on.

Whoever is with us on Christmas morning gets one too, last year we had my parents and I made up one each for them too and brought them up to bed to them as my dad has health issues and is slower at getting up. They weren't expecting a nice cup of tea and toast and a mince pie and a lovely stocking each - they were really touched and they both said they hadn't had a stocking since they were little.

Long live stockings!

AlexaShutUp · 13/11/2020 11:43

Stockings are my absolute favourite bit of Christmas. They were when I was a child, and still are now. DD would say the same.

We don't fill ours with tat, just lots of nice little gifts that we know dd will love. I do probably spend a fair bit on them, but I love doing it.

That time with dd on Christmas morning is magical. Even though she stopped believing in Santa years ago, it still feels like such a special time. I go and sit in her room while she unwraps all the little bits and bobs. The best bit of Christmas day by far!

Pukkatea · 13/11/2020 11:46

We had stockings, but basically they were just to hold the smaller presents, and went under the tree next to the larger presents. None of this on the fireplace/end of the bed and full of miscellaneous tat malarkey, although it would always include a chocolate orange and sometimes as a joke, a real orange.

Pukkatea · 13/11/2020 11:48

And I'm a mild mannered person but if I'd received a toothbrush as a Christmas gift I'd have thrown it out of the window.

ZolaGrey · 13/11/2020 12:09

We always had them. My mum still does them for me and my sister and now does them for our husbands too. I do one for my daughter.

They weren't/aren't filled with tat though, and often have stuff like individual bottles of Prosecco or wine, make up bits, travel size toiletries etc. Love a stocking!

Obviously the toe bit always has to have a satsuma and a pound coin. It's the law.

ZolaGrey · 13/11/2020 12:10

@Silverstripe

Acts of Christmas Pennance is v funny.

ZolaGrey · 13/11/2020 12:13

@StillDumDeDumming

My stockings are so legendary my children have ‘bockinngs’ - yes a birthday stocking. No tat here but the cost can add up and this year money is tight plus my babies are 16 and 19. My stockings stopped at 14 - this years will have to be chocolate and face masks. Although there are always badges and stickers

I've been conned all these years! I WANT A BOCKING!

Userme93 · 13/11/2020 12:13

We have never done stockings. I never had them growing up so never bothered.

My dad did stockings with my younger brother who would be up at the crack of dawn....so he'd be allowed to open his stocking presents in his room but must stay in bed until 7am. It was more a way to have a bit more sleep.

ZolaGrey · 13/11/2020 12:14

@speakout

How can someone be opposed to them on religious grounds? Or is it to do with Acts of Christmas Penance, mentioned previously?

formerbabe · 13/11/2020 12:15

Im actually a bit of a Grinch over Christmas...dont really enjoy it and would happily ignore it if it weren't for my DC. The only bit I truly love is doing the Christmas stockings for them. I shop for them months in advance and really live choosing and wrapping the gifts. I love watching them open them...best part of the day.

Popcornriver · 13/11/2020 12:20

The stockings we have are really quite small and they usually have books/lots of chocolate inside. I think the kids would miss them if they stopped but we've never done huge stockings with loads of odds and ends inside.

speakout · 13/11/2020 12:25

ZolaGrey

She is a very strict Baptist- who is always on the lookout for works of Satan.
She does celebrate christmas, but shuns a lot of stuff because of pagan connections.
So no christmas tree, no stockings- no Easter eggs either- all the devil's work!
She teaches at a large private Baptist school, little ones are shown that Santa is an anagram of Satan- and to be on guard!!

Rosebel · 13/11/2020 12:30

We always had stockings because that's the presents from Father Christmas. Big presents under the tree come from family. I still do stockings for my teens and husband and he does one for me.
Absolutely love it.
We don't open them on our own either. Kids come in around 6 and we all open them together.
Big presents after breakfast and getting dressed. We take it in turns to open presents as I think it's nice to watch each other. I did have to enforce this on my husband though.

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