To distance myself from colleagues and unfriend from fb

[BuzzingBumbleBee123]

There is a real culture of gossip and victimisation in my work place. Been there several years. Have been on the receiving end of this many times. There are a few in particular who always have to have someone to slag off.

Its miserable. I'm always on edge. Everything came to a head last week and I was at breaking point. Dont want to out myself, but as a consequence of finding out that they've been talking about me negatively behind my back, I've taken the decision to back off massively.

Have unfriended on fb and have left WhatsApp chat group. Want to stay professional and friendly on the surface. Any advice welcomed.

Thanks

Have spent many years trying to be accepted by some of them but now I'm not doing it anymore. Feel quite hurt, but trying to be objective about things and have a fresh start. Want to remain professional and pleasant though. Things are awkward

Don't mention it. Be pleasant and polite. Try not to feel hurt, who wants friends who slag people off??

@BuzzingBumbleBee123

Have spent many years trying to be accepted by some of them but now I'm not doing it anymore. Feel quite hurt, but trying to be objective about things and have a fresh start. Want to remain professional and pleasant though. Things are awkward

Fitting in within an office environment is difficult, office politics and some people's need to be the centre of attention never helps.. I have worked in an office for over 20yrs, I have a small amount of people I get on with, other than that I'm just polite and professional. I go to work to pay the bills not to make friends

I have done this exact same thing, we didn't have a WhatsApp group but I did accept a fair few people from the office as friends on Facebook out of politeness.
I removed them as soon as I over heard several people spying on people who were out sick for the day and discussing them.
I kept a few people who I feel were real friends but everyone else had to go, it isn't a snub to them and I will gladly be polite and chit chat with them but being able to disclose my own information as and when has helped my mental health in what was a very bitchy environment.

Thank you all. Feels quite a lonely time atm