New neighbour

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I have a new neighbour who moved in about a week ago. All day and evening all you can hear is constant screaming directed at the children (3 and 12). The verbal abuse is horrid. How would you handle this?. My other neighbour has suggested recording it and approaching school. Approach the new neighbour directly or speak to authorities. Im concerned of how to deal with this.

I don't think you should directly bring it up with the neighbour as she doesn't sound reasonable. Maybe you could phone the NSPCC for some advice?

Social Services.
I don’t know about recording it. I think I would, as it sounds awful.
Don’t approach the neighbour; it could become very nasty.

Do not approach the neighbour directly.

In your shoes, I would contact the Designated Safeguarding Officer at the eldest child's school. Give as full information as you can.

Don't record it and don't report it to the school. Call nspcc or your local children's safeguarding. Its an issue for social services, not school.

Agree with others, don't approach, do report if you are genuinely concerned. Try not to discuss with others as gossip never helps.

I would approach her tbh, but do so kindly.

That approach worked with a neighbour of mine who was fairly similar in her approach to the children. I knocked and said I could hear her shouting and I was worried and wanted to know if she was ok.

I figured the worst she could have done was slam the door in my face, but she didn’t. She said she wasn’t ok, she was struggling and she apologised for the noise. It’s been better since then and although there are moments it has helped to be a bit more friendly than aggressive towards her.

I would at least try, you can escalate afterwards. The worst that can happen will be she tells you to mind your own business.

Agree with others. Don’t approach, but call nspcc for advice or phone the school or local authority. But please do something.

Thankyou all for the advice it has been very helpful.

Let us know how it goes, whatever you decide. It's a very tough position to be in, good luck x

Having been in your shoes - NSPCC. Don’t approach her directly, she won’t thank you for it and could retaliate. Let the appropriate authorities deal with it.

Do NOT approach her