To apologise for my earlier post...

[AMidsummerNight]

I just wanted to apologise to anyone who was offended by my last post about ds and his girlfriend...it was deleted so I contacted MNHQ and was advised that some people thought I might be a troll! They said it was perhaps because I'm a new member. I have read mumsnet threads for a while, but never set up my own account. I set one up to ask my question because I genuinely did want people's opinions on the subject! Didn't mean to offend anyone so I'm very sorry if I did. I've been advised to wait a bit before posting something so controversial and get to know everyone a bit...
Hope everyone is having a nice day

I remember you post, op. I agree your son and his girlfriend need to be more discreet and respectful in your home, but you did not handle it well by using fb messaging to fire off several angry messages. You're an adult, you should have handled this like one by speaking to him.

From what you wrote, I don't think you'll have to worry about the girlfriend ever showing her face at your home again. I hope this hasn't damaged your relationship with your son.

Aquamarine1029 yes I realised afterwards that it wasn't the best way to handle it...I did apologise to him for that. I couldn't talk about it with him at the time though because they were getting ready to go out for their 1st anniversary lunch. And I couldn't contain my annoyance until he got back!

Also, perhaps it's time your son moves out. If he wants complete privacy and to live by his rules, that's what he needs to do.

Whysrumgone...that's what my son said! Maybe I didn't handle it well, and I have apologised...but I did have to sit on the loo listening to them having sex! I was angry. I just can't help feeling that its disrespectful.

He was being disrespectful. You had already spoken to him about this and he disregarded it. I would apologise for how you handled it, not for being angry.

I didn't read your original post but he absolutely shouldn't be having sex loud enough for you to hear! It is really disrespectful and both him and his girlfriend ought to be ashamed of themselves!

@Whysrumgone why do you think that is an acceptable way to communicate?