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Backwards31 · 12/11/2020 13:26

Hi I am just looking for advice really. So we moved into our home about 2 years ago. There was loads of kids around us which was lovely. We are not in the uk. My daughter befriended our next door neighbors a romanian family with four kids. At the time I thought they were lovely. Fast forward 5 weeks after moving in and we got a phone call from the mother to say that she was stuck and couldn't make it home on time to collect her kids. My husband collected them and when he did money was stolen from our car. My husband confronted one of them and asked if he had stolen it as he was sitting in the front beside my husband. He admitted it. Next a week or so later the children all knocked on our door at 11.40pm one Friday saying the youngest who was five years old at the time had a tooth ache. I asked where was the parents and they said gone out. The eldest at the time was 10 years old. After that the youngest was left in the library the father came home and completely forgot about her and she was left there. The librarian called the guards and social services got involved. Social services then knocked on our door and asked us alot of questions I was absolutely honest. The family then turned on us and the children began spitting on my child. I went ballistic and told her to keep her children away from mine and it turned into a big argument. So now recently after everything dying down and me thinking it was in the past and the mother now coming out to sit with her children playing everything has escalated again. My child came in and told me that the boy next door was bringing out magazines from his house with rude things in them. He was also giving the children a sex class and told them that when you touch yourself white stuff comes out. I was furious and contacted another couple of parents. One of them said to me oh your neighbour said your daughter was the one always talking dirty and that yous called social services on them and your daughter is always the one causing the arguments. I know that this is 100% untrue. That parent then went on to tell me that she doesn't believe it about my daughter as she had asked her child and her child said she had never heard anything of the sort from my child. I confronted the woman next door and she denied ever saying anything she said she never said anything to anyone and that my daughter is the one causing all of the trouble even though two other parents have now come forward to say that it isn't my daughter it's her son. I don't know how best to deal with this. It is absolutely soul destroying thinking that people may believe her lies about my child. I work full time and my daughter has a minder that will go out with her alot but watches her from the door also. We live in apartments by the way so all the kids play in the hall. We own our home and she is renting but I feel like selling up over this. Thank you for reading such a long post 😔

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Backwards31 · 12/11/2020 13:28

For some reason this woman has taken a major dislike to my daughter I have spoken to my daughter and other children and parents and they all say this woman is constantly roaring at my child over nothing

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Jjjayfee · 12/11/2020 13:36

Your worry is understandable. How old is your daughter.

Jjjayfee · 12/11/2020 13:39

I would add that you did the right thing in being honest to social services. It seems to me that she is trying to scapegoat you.

Popcornismandatory · 12/11/2020 13:43

Gosh!

DickBastardly · 12/11/2020 13:53

It sounds like you involved yourself far too much with this family in the first place. They say no good deed goes unpunished and well, you’ve found that out the hard way now, haven’t you? I’d stay well out of it and well away from them from now on.

BrumBoo · 12/11/2020 13:57

@Popcornismandatory

Gosh!
Indeed.
Backwards31 · 12/11/2020 19:16

My daughter is ten. My husband did say that we never should have been so friendly in the first place. It is a horrible situation and I am at the end of my thether now. My daughter loves to play with her friends but this lady and her children are spreading lies about her and telling the other children not to play with her. I just don't know what to do anymore

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Backwards31 · 13/11/2020 18:37

Bump

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Royalbloo · 13/11/2020 18:40

I'd stay well clear. I'd keep my daughter away from those kids and tell social services the truth. Other than that, never help her again. There is dignity in silence.

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