Heartbroken

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My son 8years just told me has none to play with at school. He told me he walks around the playground looking for someone to play with, all the kids say they are not playing or paying games that are apparently too had for him to play.

How do I make him feel better, or explain to him that sometimes people/kids are just mean.

That's loads of kids. Tell the teacher and ask.

OP that really is very upsetting when you hear it from your child. Sometimes children can by shy and need a bit of a push. Please speak to the teacher to ask if they can help introduce your son to other kids in the class in subtle ways in class, i.e pairing up for activities etc. The acquaintance then flows into the playground. Teachers have lots of opportunity throughout lesson to bring children together. Good luck.

My son is 8 too and was having the same problem. I agree it totally broke my heart when he told me. Have you heard of a buddy bench? If a child is sitting on it alone other children see the child on the bench and ask if they want to play. I suggested it to my sons teacher and they have put it in place, he has friends to play with now. I imagine it's helped other children in the school too.

In my experience as both a parent and school staff this sort of report from a child means that the other dc are playing something the individual doesn't want to play. Speak to school, I'd happily keep an eye in the playground if a parent had reported this (but 9.5/ 10 times there will be a different story)

My 7 YO says this. She is very outgoing and has loads of mates but on the odd day she's feeling vulnerable and a kid she want to play with is otherwise engaged she takes it to heart.

Not saying your son is exagerating but I wouldn't assume it's true. Chat with the teacher to start.

I also think social skills need to be explicitly taught. I don't push mine to much but I will encourage them to chat to kids they don't know on a park or to pay for things in shops. The more chances to learn socialisation the better.

Oh your poor DS, I'd be heartbroken if my DD came home and told me this (plenty of time, she's only 11 months) but maybe speak to his teacher and see if anything can be done?

Speak to his teacher.
That is sad for him is there a buddy bench at 8 DC are usually kinder maybe there's a nice few he hasn't came across yet.

The buddy bench works well in my DC'S school.

Talk to his teacher. Plenty of children have issues like this and often they can be easily solved.

@midnightstar66

In my experience as both a parent and school staff this sort of report from a child means that the other dc are playing something the individual doesn't want to play. Speak to school, I'd happily keep an eye in the playground if a parent had reported this (but 9.5/ 10 times there will be a different story)

He did tell me that most of the boys play football which he doesn't like.