AIBU for being angry for not commenting on neighbours planning permission

[magicmania]

Last year our neighbours bought a house and applied for planning permission. Our gardens are East facing and they are in the south. A big of the light for our house comes from their side. They applied for a two-storey extension that we did not comment on. Yes, we were just silly and did not fully think through. The permission was rejected as their neighbour on the other side complained about light, which is not really obstructing. That makes us even worse to know that we just missed a good opportunity to be heard. Now they have begun construction and we see how massively dark our house is going to feel and the impact it will have on us. I know we can't do anything about, I am here screaming "Please tell me how to get past this?"

People can seemingly build what the hell they want, wherever they want these days. My selfish twat of a neighbour was somehow granted permission to stick an obnoxious two storey extension and dormer loft conversion on a tiny terraced house. Not only is it horrendously ugly it also completely dominates my property and has blocked out about 80% of light from my once bright kitchen.

I objected, as did the surrounding neighbours. Made not a blind bit of difference except raise my blood pressure, so don't beat yourself up OP.

I agree with others who have said it probably wouldn't have made any difference.

In your place, every time it came into my head, I'd tell myself it wouldn't have made any difference, take a deep breath, and do something to distract myself. Repeat it until you believe it, wait to see what it's like when it's done, and then do whatever you can to make the most of the situation.

@DulcimerOfDestiny

I agree with others who have said it probably wouldn't have made any difference.

In your place, every time it came into my head, I'd tell myself it wouldn't have made any difference, take a deep breath, and do something to distract myself. Repeat it until you believe it, wait to see what it's like when it's done, and then do whatever you can to make the most of the situation.

That is a very sweet message. Thanks a lot. Trying the same.

Just to add, if you do decide to extend, your neighbours will have set a precedent, making it easier for you to get permission. So maybe another small silver lining?

It wouldn't have made any difference. We objected to our neighbours 2 story extension which is 1ft from my boundary and 5ft from the side of my house and blocks out all light in the landing, hall and utility.

Still went through.