To think it's odd that MIL never rings us?

[Hyperbolistic]

Been married for 20 years and we have 2 DC age 13 and 16. DH and MIL have never had a loving relationship and DH has visited her/ kept in touch more from a sense of duty rather than anything else. However it's now become apparent that unless DH makes an effort to ring his mum they will possibly never talk again as she never, ever rings here or makes any other form of contact. DH has experimented with this and left it months before ringing MIL just to see, but he always buckles in the end and rings her. When they do speak she rarely asks about him or asks after our DC. AIBU to be curious as to how a mother could be so disinterested in her own DC and GC?

I voted Yabu because some people don’t have parents that care about their children. You said yourself they have never been close. It’s sad, but if no one is feeling hurt by the relationship, it’s probably just best to accept and move on. Sad for your DH, but people like his mum, don’t change for the better, they just get more self involved

My dad and I are the same, we both hate using the phone and our calls are full of awkward silences.

My ILs live literally round the corner from us but we don’t see or hear from them from one month to the next.

We used to try to invite them for things when the DC were younger, days out, school plays, cinema trips etc. but they never came so we gave up trying.

They’ll make a big show of inviting us for a meal at our local on August bank holiday and fawn over the DC for a bit then, but after that they’ll move on and we won’t hear a peep for ages.

In fact MIL did text DH a couple of weeks ago to say something along the lines of ‘isn’t it awful that no one can see each other properly during Covid’ I really wanted DH to reply ‘we don’t see you anyway, Covid or not!’ but he didn’t want to upset her. 🙄

Same here and both my parents who adored my DC have sadly died.
Not fair is it :(

yup mine are like this, no real interest
i do wonder if its usually the Maternal Grandparents that are more involved, just in my experience, feel sad for DH sometimes though.