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DrWAnkenstein · 11/11/2020 06:30

Dh has lost something.
The following conversation occurs.
DH: Do not move things from where I have put them
ME: I have not moved anything.
DH: I did not say you had moved anything, I'm asking you not to move things.
Whilst technically this is true, I say that by implication he is accusing me of moving his stuff, otherwise he'd say 'Have you seen my X' and leave it at that.
This is a recurring argument so interested to see if it's me who is taking it the wrong way.
Am I?

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flaviaritt · 11/11/2020 07:17

He’s being very rude.

WunWun · 11/11/2020 07:18

My ex used to do this too. It's out of order.

Finfintytint · 11/11/2020 07:20

Of course he is accusing you. Sounds like a knob.

Oysterbabe · 11/11/2020 07:28

He was accusing you, yanbu.
I acccuse DH of this all the time but he has always moved my stuff.

Me: DH where is thing I use all the time and left in a convenient place?
Him: I put it in the back of a locked filing cabinet in the basement.

Procrastination4 · 11/11/2020 07:29

You are completely right-asking you not to move things is implying that you do...
I really hate when people try to blame others when they lose things. My mother used to do it (in a general way...”what have ye done with my x” kind of thing) when we were growing up! However, she probably had an excuse-full time worker with five children so had an excuse for being stressed at times. Your husband on the other hand, doesn’t. That’s so annoying! I’m not sure what the best approach to it is, though.

dudsville · 11/11/2020 07:31

He was trying to dig himself out of a hole whilst retaining the higher ground and failed miserably.

DrWAnkenstein · 11/11/2020 07:51

Ha, well that's fairly unanimous.
Incidentally, I found what he was looking for within 2 minutes because obviously my brain has the ability to catalog the contents of our house in it's entirety. It was where he put it for safe keeping 🤷‍♀️

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Nottherealslimshady · 11/11/2020 08:13

Ah we have this conversation all the time. I "hide" things. I play this fun game where I say "where did you leave it" and he points at like the middle of the living room floor or on top of the chest freezer or the computer desk right where the keyboard goes. "Does that look like a safe place to leave something you need keeping?"
We're getting there, the rule is, I wont leave in a hovel so put your own stuff away where you'll find it or I'll "hide" it.

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