To not want to see friend with sick DS?

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I am supposed to see a good friend tomorrow. She is going through a hard time at the moment, and I am looking forward to seeing her, BUT she has a sick DS with a chest infection and he's been on antibiotics for about a week.

I want to see her BUT I have a three month old DS. He is still little and would prefer to wait till her DS is all better.

AIBU?

If it something contagious you aren't being unreasonable.

I wouldn't think he would be contagious...he's probably over it now. You could be next to someone in a lift with a lot worse, and you wouldn't even know about it.

I can understand your concern, if it was D and V def. stay away. See your friend, you'll forget about the chesty one soon enough!!

I don't think you are as your ds is so little. But maybe ask her if he is still contagious?

I phoned her tonight as I was feeling bad, and he is still coughing and she said he's still sounding rattly in the chest. She told me she thinks I am doing the right thing, that if it was her DS1 she wouldn't want to come either!

She did text me to let me know he's been sick, so I think she's trying to do the right thing....I just wish I didn't feel so bad, she's going through a hard time with him.

no would never knowingly allow my child into contact with an ill child-cannot bear it when they are ill!

It's your prerogative but tbh I think you may have overreacted.

Tbh I think she has done the right thing, telling you about her poorly child and letting you make the decision as to whether you want to risk your child getting the same.

I always prewarn visitors if any of my children have been/ are ill and I do expect the same. I've always told friends coughs and colds don't bother me too much (unless DS3 is not 100% then I may stay away as he is prone to chest infections/pnuemonia) but I do hate sickness bugs! No-one (as far as I know) is offended if I postpone the visit.

YANBU, especially as your baby is so little and if you'd rather your child (of any age) isn't ill then there's nothing wrong with that.

I don't think you've overreacted. (And I'm not at all nuerotic over dirt, normal colds etc).Why don't you ask her if she can settle her ds with a dvd for an hour (not at all bad if he is ill) at the time your ds is normally asleep and you can call her and natter on the phone.