Is this out of order or am I?

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Partner was on video call to his mum and at the end of the call she says " bye daddy bye dd name and bye eatless , in the past she has made me feel like it's him and our child and I was an outsider I wouldn't dream of saying bye grandad bye ( her name ) and not grandma, for what it's worth dd can speak for herself anyway she's old enough just found it weird why she would say bye daddy and then use my name like I'm not dd mummy, happy to be told if I'm being unreasonable but wanted to know what others thought

This is a bit silly.

Totally over sensitive- in fact I would object to being called 'mummy' - I have a proper name, the word 'mummy' does not define me. You really need to grow a thicker skin if that sort of thing annoys you.

You weren’t even on the call? You are being very odd.

I think you’re overthinking it a little.

The weird thing is that she called her son ‘daddy’, unless dc is still a very new baby (which you said she wasn’t).

They say ‘pick your battles’, and I think this is one you can let go.

Right. So she was on a video call with her Dgd and her son who was in role of Daddy because they were on the call together.

She asked about you, and then called goodbye to you as a person in your own right.

Thankyou for your reply, fwiw I'm sure had it of been the other way round she would have complained about it

Did you mean ‘thank you’ to the first person to post and who disagreed? And so what if she would complain about it? Do you want to play ‘let’s be as bad as each other’ as you unpick every communication for slights ? What an exhausting way to live.

I've had a lot of abuse and nastiness that I've absolutely had enough of it all

OK, abuse and nastiness is different. Deal with that . Because seething about small things, that might not even be a thing, will wear you out and drag you down.

I think it was purposefully just a little snide

I also assumed this: *So she was on a video call with her Dgd and her son who was in role of Daddy because they were on the call together.

She asked about you, and then called goodbye to you as a person in your own right*

Try thinking the best of people OP, you might be happier as a result.

I get what your saying and I appreciate all the replies, I know this one thing alone would be silly but add up all the other bullshit and nastiness I've put up with over a few years and there is no need for it, like I said she has a few times made me feel like I'm just the one who birthed dd and just an outsider of my own little family

You are being massively over sensitive but I presume this is part of a long line of issues and that is why

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Right. So she was on a video call with her Dgd and her son who was in role of Daddy because they were on the call together.

She asked about you, and then called goodbye to you as a person in your own right.

Thankyou for your reply, fwiw I'm sure had it of been the other way round she would have complained about it

Did you mean ‘thank you’ to the first person to post and who disagreed? And so what if she would complain about it? Do you want to play ‘let’s be as bad as each other’ as you unpick every communication for slights ? What an exhausting way to live.

Every word of that. You and your partner had different roles in that call which entirely explain her farewell. It won't even have been a conscious selection of words on her part. It makes perfect sense.

If you genuinely have a difficult MIL, forensically looking for more things to be angry with her for is really unhelpful, and bad for your wellbeing, (as well as being unfair).

If you've suffered a lot of nastiness from her, it makes far more sense to post about that than about this non-event. Whenever people post to complain about something completely ordinary and inoffensive, and then add that they're upset because of all the other truly terrible stuff, it makes it harder to take them seriously. You can't help but wonder if everything else was in fact as normal as this was and they've got some agenda against this person.