To think that, unless you know the kitchen they were made in is very clean, homemade edible gifts go straight in the bin

[Bearbehind]

Especially this year

Given we’re sanitising things we touch and are ultra conscious about the spread of germs etc - AIBU to think that if you get edible gifts from someone’s who’s kitchen you either don’t know or don’t think is very clean - you’d just bin it?

I’m not saying you can catch Covid from the food but it’s the principle of not knowing how hygenic stuff is

I’m not a fan of homemade gifts at the best of times - I think a sort of rule should be that unless your homemade items are good enough to sell for actual money, then please don’t do it

No one is going to admit they binned it but I do hope those who would make homemade edible gifts, especially for teachers, this year think twice

A not edible homemade gift though is a different matter entirely

I'm wary about where they've come from. Eat loads from people I know and trust but some of those efforts at the school fair.......

I disagree - I think people should have the awareness to realise that unless their homemade gifts are good enough to sell then they are unlikely to be well received

This reminds me of the Oscar Wilde quote that a cynic is someone who knows the price of everything and the value of nothing. For me, value doesn't come from whether or not it could be sold. I have a card my DP's daughter made for me that means a lot, because it was far more effort for her than shoving a card in the shopping trolley when she was in the supermarket with her dad.

As for baked goods - well they're baked, it's a pretty good way to kill germs. It does depend on how much someone is likely to have handled them afterwards as to whether I would eat them and as per pp, once I've seen someone leave the toilet without washing their hands I'm much more circumspect. However, I've found that in general, unless you're really unfortunate you're likely to be able to eat these things with no ill effects.

My friends call me the cupcake queen... they certainly don't bin the lovingly made and 'left on their doorstep with a doorbell rung' boxes of cupcakes.... they text me and call me and video message gratefully.

I love homemade gifts. Would never touch a manufactured sandwich on the other hand!

I’d rather have a home made cake than a bought one any time. Same with chocolate truffles and peppermint creams. When I was a child people looked down on shop bought cake. As to putting it in the bin, I despair. At least hand it on to someone less fastidious if you don’t want it.

@MozzchopsThirty

I would never eat a homemade gift no no no

I don't eat what my dcs cook in school

I can't believe all these posts about accepting food gifts with glee
I'd rather be given a turd to bury

Your poor DC

I can't believe all these posts about accepting food gifts with glee
I'd rather be given a turd to bury

🙄

@MozzchopsThirty

I would never eat a homemade gift no no no

I don't eat what my dcs cook in school

I can't believe all these posts about accepting food gifts with glee
I'd rather be given a turd to bury

fine if you never ever accept a diner party invitation never go to a bbq, never accept a cup of tea never buy a sandwich never eat out

sterilise every food you ever eat, every drink you touch, every tube of toothpaste, every lipbalm
(not sure how you sterilise fruits and veg, but when you see in which condition they are grown, picked up, transported and sold....)

because refusing homemade gift but doing any of the above would be ridiculous and inconsistent wouldn't it?

@MiddlesexGirl ooh I know they'll be in therapy for life
Get over yourself

@Lowkeevslucille most of those are very different you're just being facetious

If I go to a bbq one would assume I know the host and would most likely walk through the kitchen
If I get given a food gift from a client or pick up cakes at a school fayre I have no idea of what their kitchen is like

Sometimes if you say you don't want presents, people end up feeling really uncomfortable about not giving anything when they are doing for everyone else. So they just end up getting you a small token thing... it's like a compromise I guess?

I don't see why it has to be a big deal. If you don't want to eat it for wahtever reason then don't. Just give it away or throw it in the bin. You can still just accept and appreticate it for what it is which is a little token of friendship/ love.

Personally I would eat a homemade gift, if it looked like something I would like (but probably not if it was made by a child!)

But I do understand why some people might not want to. In that case just accept the gift and don't eat it. No big deal.

[quote MozzchopsThirty]@Lowkeevslucille most of those are very different you're just being facetious

If I go to a bbq one would assume I know the host and would most likely walk through the kitchen
If I get given a food gift from a client or pick up cakes at a school fayre I have no idea of what their kitchen is like[/quote]
You litterally wrote

I would never eat a homemade gift
I'd rather be given a turd to bury

loving the massive backtracking

and the poster who already talked about "knowing the host" already never clarified HOW they check the kitchen the first time they are invited... I don't know anyone organising an actual tour of their kitchen, before an invitation or on the day people are around
😂

We all know you are talking nonsense and there's 0 logic against the "home made gifts"

No backtracking there at all💁🏼‍♀️ but whatever fits your narrative

I’m the same op.....family and friends that I know who have high standards of cleanliness, fine, I’d happily accept gifts from them......people with sheddy dogs, cats they allow to roam across their kitchen worktops etc, not a chance!

@MozzchopsThirty

No backtracking there at all💁🏼‍♀️ but whatever fits your narrative

I am merely quoting what YOU wrote...

So all you people who wouldn't eat anything that someone else had made unless you had inspected their kitchens have clean and sterile kitchens themselves - sounds a bit arrogant to me.
Living in sterile environments increase risk of allergies (the immune system starts to turn on itself as nothing to fight).
Need to have a sensible balance.

I will admit I never eat anything 'homemade' unless it comes from my dad. The reason for this is my anxiety and emetophobia. If I don't know 100% how things have been cooked and prepared, I don't eat them. I think my dad's food feels 'safe' because he always cooked when we were growing up and I never got ill from anything he gave me, so I see him as safe.

However, the rational part of my brain KNOWS that the food is actually safe, so DSS and DP happily munch away at whatever we get. I would never give them anything if I thought it would actually harm them. My brain just won't quite let me eat them myself .. which is a shame as I feel like I'm missing out sometimes.

and the poster who already talked about "knowing the host" already never clarified HOW they check the kitchen the first time they are invited... I don't know anyone organising an actual tour of their kitchen, before an invitation or on the day people are around

I did clarify that I don’t recall a situation where the first time I’d been to a persons house was for a meal and that you’d generally go for coffee or something before hand and would see the kitchen then
😂

We all know you are talking nonsense and there's 0 logic against the "home made gifts"

There’s plenty of logic, you just don’t agree with it!

@MrsPernicious

I don't waste handmade food presents on anyone would not be pinching it off the cooling rack, if they were here.

DS1 did once give his teacher, TA and boarding house staff marmalade for Christmas, with a note to pop it in the cupboard if they weren't going to use it. They used to send messages home requesting more. It was a quirky arrangement but worked.

I've had people round the hose who recoil from having drinks or eating anything. Unless they admit having OCD or similar, I just don't invite them again.

Nice... so you won't invite them again unless they've shared details of a mental illness with you, as nothing less than that would be an acceptable reason for not eating or drinking in your house? You might suspect OCD, but that's not good enough, they need to tell you about it?

Maybe you could get people to fill in a form on entering, where they either commit to eating or drinking something or provide you with the reasons why not - perhaps with a letter from a GP or psychiatrist confirming they're allowed to refuse food you offer them?

And I am obviously a two-faced bitch as I will smile and accept what she has given me before putting it in the bin!

This is what I do. Whenever MIL sends over some cakes made in her filthy, doggy kitchen, I smile and say how lovely they look. And if she asks, I tell her they tasted great.

I'd be interested to know how much of the handmade fudge and Victoria Sponge that MNetters are lovingly leaving on neighbours doorsteps in these germ riddled times are actually getting eaten. Possibly less than some of you think.

@Bearbehind

Especially this year

Given we’re sanitising things we touch and are ultra conscious about the spread of germs etc - AIBU to think that if you get edible gifts from someone’s who’s kitchen you either don’t know or don’t think is very clean - you’d just bin it?

I’m not saying you can catch Covid from the food but it’s the principle of not knowing how hygenic stuff is

I’m not a fan of homemade gifts at the best of times - I think a sort of rule should be that unless your homemade items are good enough to sell for actual money, then please don’t do it

No one is going to admit they binned it but I do hope those who would make homemade edible gifts, especially for teachers, this year think twice

Actual money? As opposed to fake money?

I know my families houses and my friends, I’ve been in their homes many times! No need to ‘inspect’ their kitchens! I know they’re spotless! Not sterile, but they have high standards of cleanliness which is why I would (and do!) eat and enjoy anything they make.