Not sure if I am BU...
Juat got back from a night shift.DH asked me how my night was and whilst I was answering he was looking at his phone and said 'he hasn't got it yet', I was a bit annoyed that he clearly wasn't listening to me and said 'I'll just tell you later then', a bit passive aggressive I know. He then got in a mood saying that he was texting friend about something that is important and that we both want (friend is ordering some things from online shop and is going to add a few bits for us that we couldn't get from the shop and month or so ago, very kind etc but not life or death). I said that its rude to ask someone a question and not listen to the answer. He has got really angry, said I'm being unreasonable because what he was doing was more important as the friend wants to place the order within half an hour (he never said that when he mentioned friend was getting order in today), the world doesn't revolve around me, even acting out getting people to gather round to listen to my important news. I stand by it being rude to ask someone a question and then do something else and not listen. Apparently he's an adult and doesn't appreciate being called rude by me. I tried to apologise when he got out the shower but he wont engage, says he's really angry and wont make my life easier by accepting apology. I just feel like it's not worth all this, I do think its rude but he's acting like I've accused him of something far worse! For info he has a habit of being preoccupied by his phone, gets it out whilst we're eating etc but he won't recognise this in himself at all. I hate arguing with him as I feel that he just cant accept that I can feel one way about an issue and he can feel another way. We've been together 20 years so something must work! I am tired so possibly blowing this our of proportion! So AIBU?