please help - miscarriage?

[veryworried20]

I’m 11 weeks pregnant today and have been bleeding for the last hour (including some small clots). I’ve phoned the urgent number my midwife gave me but they said they couldn’t help and to phone A and E. i’ve phoned them and they’ve said that they can’t help either. I’ve tried 111 but was on hold for 30 minutes and just gave up because i’m crying so much i’d doubt they’d be able to understand me. Can i phone my midwife at this hour or no?

Is this a miscarriage? This is my first pregnancy and i’m only 18 and have no clue what to do

also forgot to mention i had some cramping a few hours ago but nothing since

Hiya.... I don’t know I’m sorry but if you are really worried then go to a and e! I’m sorry and I hope everything is okay xx Some people get cramps and bleeding with no problems xx

You poor thing. That's a very tough thing to go through. Is the father of the baby around to help you? Or your own parents or a sibling maybe?

I’m sorry, I’d head up to A&E

If the bleeding is heavy you should head to your nearest maternity hospital for a scan. I hope you're not on your own right now.

I'd get yourself to A+E. Hope you're ok x

i can’t get to A&E, i don’t have a car and live alone with my dad who doesn’t know that i’m pregnant and has had alcohol so can’t drive either

I doubt your MW will be contactable now tbh. I'd just go to A&E. I didn't bleed in pregnancy but many women have done and it's been ok. Unfortunately no one can know for sure.

Can you get a taxi?

Would your dad not he worried about you? Presumably you were planning on keeping the baby so he will notice at some point.

Oh OP - can you not get a taxi? I don't know your situation but maybe now is perhaps the time to tell your dad. He would probably sort your taxi fare out if you can't afford x

Oh love.
Honestly it could that you are misscarrying, it could be absolutely nothing, and sadly there is nothing we can do to predict which way it will go. From my understanding the more blood, and the more pain the more likely it is that your are losing your baby, but I think a&e might be the way to go, but ultimately you may need a scan.

Keeping my fingers crossed for you both.

Can you get a taxi? It might be a good time to talk to your dad about it.

If the blood is bright red, and you are soaking through a pad in less than an hour, you need to go to A&E. I didn’t when I had a miscarriage years ago and subsequently was very unwell.

My heart goes out to you. It’s royally shit. Sending love and hoping everything is ok

the bleeding stopped now. Would it be rude to text my midwife so late?

I mean you could try. She might not respond. I’d still suggest you go to A and E in a taxi.

Unless you are bleeding heaving (more than a pad an hour) there is no point going to A&E. You need an early pregnancy scan and not many gynae units would offer that in the night. Your best bet would be to contact 111 tomorrow and get booked in for an early pregnancy scan, good luck.

Definitely not rude to text your midwife - that’s what she’s there for.

Bleeding can be a sign of miscarriage but it is also something that happens to lots of pregnant women who have healthy full term pregnancies. You should always get it checked out, but don’t assume the worst.

I think you should try and get to A&E if you can.

Do you have any support in this? Is the baby’s dad involved? Do any adults know? You’re very young to be going through this without some support, so if it’s safe to tell your dad (I.e. it wouldn’t endanger you or expose you to risk) it might be a good idea. If he isn’t a safe adult whom you trust, do you have anyone else you could talk to about the pregnancy?

I hope you’re ok

Just to offer some reassurance in case it helps, I had a bit of bleeding at 14 weeks, and it turned out to be something called a subchorionic hematoma. I was told it didn't look very hopeful, but my two year old is sat here on my lap as I type. I know your situation could be totally different, but I just wanted to say that it doesn't always end badly. As PP above said though, I would definitely get checked out. Can you get an urgent GP appointment in the morning? If not, I'd call 111 back and hopefully someone will be able to help soon. I don't think it's rude to text your midwife either, it's exactly what she's there for and you certainly won't be the first person that's done it.

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this on your own. Sending you a massive hug and hoping you're able to get some real life support too

Definitely okay to text your midwife! If the bleeding has stopped try not to worry, get some sleep and call 111 in the moring. Good luck

My friend has been going through this the last few weeks, she's had bright red bleeding on and off from 9-15 weeks and the baby is still fine, no apparent reason for it. She has had scans and thorough checks. Honestly, it could be a miscarriage or it might not be, I don't want to get your hopes up but wanted to let you know it's not always a sign of miscarriage.

I'd text your midwife and see if she replies, it might be that there's a specific one on call and she has the mobile. Midwives are used to working all hours so don't worry about that.

I hope you have an adult who knows about the pregnancy who can support you either way.

The bleeding started again this morning with even worse cramps I’ve managed to get through to midwife and she doesn’t seem too worried but is sending me for a scan on tuesday to check

good luck for the scan op, hope everything is well

Good luck with your scan tomorrow, @veryworried20

How did you get on with your scan OP?

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How did you get on with your scan OP?

it was definitely a miscarriage