To think it's okay to see BF under these circumstances?

[FreddieFoot]

BF lives in a different area to me. It's a 40 minute drive on a good day but on a bad day can take longer. He's the only person I've been seeing and I assumed that as we are both single we were each other's support bubble.

I was meant to be seeing him this evening. On the way here he saw a police roadblock. Instead of joining the queue to answer questions about where he was going he did a right turn and drove home. AIBU for thinking he should have tried to see me?

you'll need to check the regulations (not the guidance) as I don't know if they say anything about travel distances.

Are you in England?

I mean the guidance is to stay at home, essential trips only. Your bf was obviously scared about the police potentially fining him for making an unnecessary trip, which is fine.

Yes, I am in England.

By that I mean if he felt worried, it’s his prerogative to turn around and go home

It does say you can form a support bubble with another adult if you're both single and haven't already formed one.

You can travel to see someone in your support bubble. It's guidance that you should try to keep it local but it's fine to travel for that purpose (my support bubble is my mum about the same distance away as she also helps with childcare).

I can see why your bf might have got a bit panicky if there was a road block- I didn't know they were actually happening! - but I'm sure he would have been ok to come and see you.

I do think it depends really where you are though, is that a London 40 mins or a cross county 40 mins?!

It's not very ballsy of him

He's in London and I'm on the border between London and Surrey.

CrotchBurn that's kind of how I feel about it right now. And of course disappointed.

Four weeks is a long time. I'm actually staying with DM for lockdown (came a week or so before it was announced) as we both live alone and won't see anyone else! He obviously panicked but maybe you can come up with a plan of what to say if/when it happens again?

It is a long time - especially including the first lockdown when I didn't see him at all.

You can be each others' support bubble as long as each of you aren't seeing anyone else. He can travel to come and see you/you can go and see him and even stay overnight as being in a support bubble means you treat yourselves as one household. He should have just queued and answered any questions the police asked. He"s a big scaredy cat.

@TheCanyon

I do think it depends really where you are though, is that a London 40 mins or a cross county 40 mins?!

Why does it matter? There is no legal restriction, or even guidance, on time or distance travelled which is "allowed". Travelling to visit your support bubble is legal, end of.

The police are doing roadblocks now?! Jesus, how East Germany.

He(and you) were in the right, of course you can see each other, but the police get the law wrong SO often and have taken to handing out some pretty big fines, I think I would have fled too to be honest, however unreasonable it would seem once home.

Although I do like to think I’d have found a way around the roadblock.

I might have taken the right turn and then found another way around for ease and convenience but to go home is a bit cowardly given a) he was doing nothing wrong b) what would they have said if he said he was just popping to a shop/en route to caring for a vulnerable adult....

Really road blocks? I doubt it in London. Sure his not just being a bit lazy

Skysblue they did roadblocks and checks last time round. I never got stopped but then I'm white, middle aged and a woman. I don't know whether there is still a bit of subliminal racism in the Police but BF is black, middle aged and drives a really crappy car. I think Police make him nervous.

The police are doing roadblocks now?! Jesus, how East Germany.

If people just followed the rules there would be no need for road blocks.

Whereabouts is he travelling from and to, @Freddiefoot ?

Do you both live on your own, with no house mates etc?
If so, then you can form a support bubble. If only one of you has their own accomodation, then you'd need to meet at that home.
If you both share a home with others, then you wouldn't be able to meet at either home.