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To be concerned about nursery posting pictures of children in underwear on Facebook?

87 replies

MandB23 · 06/11/2020 16:15

This is my child’s old nursery but I still follow the page.
They’ve put a post on of the children doing a big floor painting in their underwear. There are 31 pictures.
I messaged them to say that I don’t think the pictures are appropriate for an open Facebook group and they replied to say they follow policies and ask parents questions about their preferences around photographs on induction.
I tried to reply to say that i still don’t think it’s appropriate as I don’t imagine they have actually specified to parents that the images may be of their children in underwear but it looks like they’ve then blocked me on messenger as it won’t send.
I’m concerned as to why a nursery wouldn’t just hear the concerns from a parent point of view and remove them? What’s it to them if those pictures need to be removed? Is it worth the potential safeguard concern of a child?

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TikTakTikTak · 06/11/2020 16:21

I don't think this is what the parents would have had in mind when they consented to photographs.

Could you ask to see the Manager when you pick your child up? Is your child on the photos?

JuliaJohnston · 06/11/2020 16:25

Consenting to photos doesn't imply you're happy for them to be photographed in their underwear, how weird.

WhatHaveIFound · 06/11/2020 16:25

Back when my DC were little I allowed photos of them to be taken and posted on social media. However I would not be happy of photos of them in their underwear. I know the sort of picture you mean as I was given them by our nursery but it's totally inappropiate to be posted so publicly.

UnconvincingUsername · 06/11/2020 16:30

Do you mean they’re wearing vests but not tshirts?

Henio · 06/11/2020 16:31

I wouldn't be happy about that at all

FoxtrotSkarloey · 06/11/2020 16:32

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Nonamesavail · 06/11/2020 16:33

Why are they in underwear?

Marmite27 · 06/11/2020 16:35

How old are the children and what do you mean by underwear?

A four year old in knickers is a very different thing to an 18 month old in a body suit/ vest.

PlanDeRaccordement · 06/11/2020 16:37

Yes that’s not right at all. The nursery my DCs went to put oversize paint smocks on them to do paint projects. There is no reason for a nursery to have ANY activity with the children in the underwear.

I’d be tempted to call the police non urgent line and ask about whether that photo warrants an investigation by them.

JuliaJohnston · 06/11/2020 16:38

@PlanDeRaccordement

Yes that’s not right at all. The nursery my DCs went to put oversize paint smocks on them to do paint projects. There is no reason for a nursery to have ANY activity with the children in the underwear.

I’d be tempted to call the police non urgent line and ask about whether that photo warrants an investigation by them.

That's a ridiculous over reaction, ffs!
Baaaahhhhh · 06/11/2020 16:39

Underwear in a nursery shouldn't cause concern. Like pp I would assume they are in nappies, nappy pants, and or vests/bodies, so not unlike being on a beach in swim pants or a swimming suit??

Original poster
MandB23 · 06/11/2020 16:40

The kids are wearing t shirts and knickers. About 3/4 year old. The reason I felt it was specifically inappropriate was because on one picture you can almost see the bulge (cringe, sorry - can’t think of how else to say it) in a little boys underpants.
To then be blocked when I raised it seemed so unprofessional
I can still see the page so they must have just blocked me on messenger. The pictures are still there.

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NameChange2PostThis · 06/11/2020 16:40

Report the post on FB for contravening standards of child safeguarding

Nonamesavail · 06/11/2020 16:41

I wouldn't be happy about that at all. My daughters nursery wears overalls.

Original poster
MandB23 · 06/11/2020 16:42

I’m not suggesting there’s anything wrong with how they were dressed within the setting.
I’m concerned with the pictures being on Facebook for anyone to see. It seems unprofessional of a nursery whose priority should be safeguarding children.

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NameChange2PostThis · 06/11/2020 16:42

You could also comment on the photo on FB suggesting it’s not appropriate

Emma10702 · 06/11/2020 16:43

I saw a post from one of our local nurseries on Facebook yesterday with a very similar picture. Babies in nappies doing painting. I wouldn’t be happy if it was one of my children. I was surprised they thought it was appropriate to post it actually.

Pollynextdoor · 06/11/2020 16:45

I don’t think it sounds inappropriate. I think you sound more weird noticing little boys bulges to be honest.

PlanDeRaccordement · 06/11/2020 16:47

@JuliaJohnston
You can have that opinion. Personally I see stripping and entire class of children down to their underwear for activities and then photographing it as very concerning. Where is the parents consent? Or the child’s consent for that matter? I can’t imagine every child was happy to undress in front of class and staff. At least one would have been coerced into it.

justicedanceson · 06/11/2020 16:50

@Baaaahhhhh

Underwear in a nursery shouldn't cause concern. Like pp I would assume they are in nappies, nappy pants, and or vests/bodies, so not unlike being on a beach in swim pants or a swimming suit??
Kids in underwear painting isn’t a big deal. But putting on an open Facebook page is. I’d be very unhappy.
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MandB23 · 06/11/2020 16:52

@Pollynextdoor I get that it sounds very weird. I’ve worked in safeguarding so I was a little bit concerned about the photos as soon as I saw them and then maybe was a little bit more observant as I checked to see if I thought they should be on there.
Each to their own. In regards to their OWN children. I don’t agree with half the stuff I see parents post. But when it’s a nursery, they shouldn’t be making decisions like that about other peoples kids.

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justicedanceson · 06/11/2020 16:52

If you don’t feel it’s been dealt with (blocked you so clearly not!) then I would contact the local authority designated safeguarding officer or alternatively ofsted.

JuliaJohnston · 06/11/2020 16:54

[quote PlanDeRaccordement]@JuliaJohnston
You can have that opinion. Personally I see stripping and entire class of children down to their underwear for activities and then photographing it as very concerning. Where is the parents consent? Or the child’s consent for that matter? I can’t imagine every child was happy to undress in front of class and staff. At least one would have been coerced into it.[/quote]
I wouldn't be happy about it at all, and I'd make my feelings known to the nursery. Their poor judgement might even make me reconsider the nursery itself, tbh.
I just don't consider it a police matter.

Sunshinesweet123 · 06/11/2020 16:58

Definitely report! My daughter is nursery age and I would be horrified if her nursery were doing the same. Also worrying that they have blocked you, not professional one bit!

Duckwit · 06/11/2020 17:00

Why on earth were they painting in just pants and a t shirt anyway? What's wrong with overalls or all in ones? I work with fairly young kids and that just seems very strange to me!

I'm not sure it warrants ringing the police (classic Mumsnet!) but maybe email the nursery again with something more formal than on messenger (where its easy to just block) and see what comes back? Or you could ring them and then they can't block you!