So husband and I have had 3 failed ivf cycles in the last 2 years. I am 41 and husband has had a vasectomy (previously married). Given the time constraints we decided that a testes biopsy was the best route to go instead of a vasectomy reversal which may not be successful and then still need to do a sperm extraction via biopsy at a later stage.
My last cycle failed completely whereas before I have had two early miscarriages. Without going into all the medical jargon I retrieved a fair amount of eggs for my age, they were reasonable quality, the embryos were not A grade but also not the worst. Everything seemed pretty average.
My appt with doc yesterday was terrible. I went in feeling so full of hope that we would be able to do another egg retrieval, ICSI and transfer before Christmas. But the doctor was so negative. He didn’t have anything hopeful to say. Basically I’m old my eggs have aged. My husbands sperm is less than great because it’s been extracted via biopsy and a vasectomy after 10 years rescues the quality. Our embryos are poor. The chances of genetic abnormalities are high. Our track record of 3 failed cycles leaves such a small percentage of success in the future. It’s costly.
We told him that money was not an issue (that sounds pretentious but we have enough to do another few cycles)
I’m just so disappointed in his atttitude. It’s like he doesn’t want me to do another cycle. I thought this whole process was about hope and that these doctors would be able to try and try. 3 cycles seems very little compared to what I’ve read and I’m surely not the only 41 year old who is seeking fertility help when there are 41 year olds falling pregnant naturally?
I don’t know what to do.