Stupid argument over not lining amazons pockets. Whose BU?

[MoonBaby1]

It was one of those post too many drinks ‘discussions’ last night that escalated into a full blown argument.

Dh (who is into conspiracy theories, not sure if that’s relevant but everything seems to come back to the men in control etc) declared that this lockdown I shouldn’t buy from amazon and that I’m lining the pockets of an evil man, evil conglomerate etc.

It was very much aimed at me buying pointless shit (I don’t) and him being the saintly one who doesn't buy anything but essentials.

So I said no, I’m a free agent and will continue to buy stuff if I want to. He gets angry and when I point out that I pay for prime myself for all the family to use including prime video and some subscriptions to essentials (bin liners, calpol, loo roll) out of my own money and not shared household cash.

At this he backtracks saying all that should continue but not any extra spending which I find hypocritical.

This is where I become petty. I then, passive aggressively cancel the subscriptions to these thing bar cancelling prime in front of him saying he can’t have it both ways. This enraged him and he starts shouting and punched a couple of walls.

I’m well aware non of us look great in this situation and I thought we’d draw a line under it this morning but he’s still really pissed off.

You need to take this as a massive red flag. You need to revaluate your relationship and drinking.

@ancientgran this is true. I’d had two G&T’s and then half a bottle of wine . First night of DJ’s furlough and we got carried away.

I hope when he surfaces he’ll be a bit more contrite like I am right now.

Hope things have settled down and you have a nice weekend.

I'm renewing my Amazon Prime next week, DH doesn't like using them so he just gets me to order things. Funny how people can rationalise their decisions.

Neither of you should be drinking if you can't behave like normal people👀 You were petty as fuck and let's face it, cancelling like that was just provoking him, however, a big however, punching walls is waaay too far.

You can get calpol subscriptions?

Massively misses the point of the thread

I thought you were both in the wrong and it was a silly argument until the bit about punching walls. I think actually that would be a game changer for me

So he got violent when you resisted his attempts to control what you buy and where you buy it? Sounds abusive to me.

Punching walls is a ridiculous response to anything 😑

He's into conspiracy theories.
He punches walls.
You pay for household essentials out of your own money, not household money (why?)

It's not great, is it?
Were the kids around to witness or hear the wall punching?

@SquishySquirmy

He's into conspiracy theories. He punches walls. You pay for household essentials out of your own money, not household money (why?)

It's not great, is it?
Were the kids around to witness or hear the wall punching?

This. He clearly doesn’t feel strongly enough to actually participate in organising essentials himself. He does seem controlling.

You are both utterly absurd. How embarrassing.