AIBU for being annoyed housemate accused me of taking her keys?

[Georgeoftheinternet]

I don’t know if I’m being overly sensitive or not.

I go to the shop and I get three messages on what’s app saying “will you be back before 10pm, I can’t get in, you’ve taken my keys”.

A few minutes after the messages were deleted. I hadn’t read the messages, just got the notification.

English isn’t her first language but it’s not the first time that she’s accused me of taking something and doesn’t listen when I say I haven’t taken it.

I just feel she should have said “hey I’ve misplaced my keys” instead of blaming me for taking them. Our keys are really different.

Just text her back and tell her you haven’t taken her keys, she must have lost them?

I mean YANBU to be a bit miffed but fully annoyed seems a bit excessive. I would have just replied "hello, I saw your message and definitely haven't taken your keys, hope everything's ok" or similar.

If she was still accusing me of it after having come home and producing my own keys, yes I would be annoyed and ask if there is some problem/advise her she needs to take better care of her own to avoid being locked out next time or cut a spare. I don't advocate keeping a spare on the grounds of the house but do cut a spare which lives in the zipper compartment of a bag I keep in the car because I have form for going out and leaving the key at home.

To automatically accuse you is pretty shit. I can see why you’re annoyed.

I had something similar once: a housemate accused me of using her fancy shampoo and conditioner and was really annoyed about it.

(There were four other girls sharing that bathroom so not quite sure why she specifically thought it was me.)

I absolutely hadn’t used them and told her so but she didn’t believe me: so frustrating!

@SockDrawer

To automatically accuse you is pretty shit. I can see why you’re annoyed.

I had something similar once: a housemate accused me of using her fancy shampoo and conditioner and was really annoyed about it.

(There were four other girls sharing that bathroom so not quite sure why she specifically thought it was me.)

I absolutely hadn’t used them and told her so but she didn’t believe me: so frustrating!

You must have the nicest hair ;)

@Freixene

Just text her back and tell her you haven’t taken her keys, she must have lost them?

She’s deleted the messages, I came home just as she was leaving and said “you found your keys ok?”.

@dontgobaconmyheart

I mean YANBU to be a bit miffed but fully annoyed seems a bit excessive. I would have just replied "hello, I saw your message and definitely haven't taken your keys, hope everything's ok" or similar.

If she was still accusing me of it after having come home and producing my own keys, yes I would be annoyed and ask if there is some problem/advise her she needs to take better care of her own to avoid being locked out next time or cut a spare. I don't advocate keeping a spare on the grounds of the house but do cut a spare which lives in the zipper compartment of a bag I keep in the car because I have form for going out and leaving the key at home.

It’s not the first time she’s accused me of doing something.

If I was to lose my keys I wouldn’t just say “you’ve taken them” I would ask “hey have you picked them up by mistake”.

Not sure if it’s because she’s from another country.

I do this all the time with my DH, especially when it comes to keys or cards... almost always he doesn’t have them it’s just under something. I do however realise it was unreasonable afterwards and apologise.

She’s a twat. Ask her to stop accusing you of taking her things as it’s giving you anxiety.

I think my level of irritation with her would depend on her language skills? If her English isn’t great, she may not be intending to be so rude

@Onjnmoeiejducwoapy

I think my level of irritation with her would depend on her language skills? If her English isn’t great, she may not be intending to be so rude

I don’t know how to access her English :/

Part of me thinks she’s ok

@RoseTintedAtuin

I do this all the time with my DH, especially when it comes to keys or cards... almost always he doesn’t have them it’s just under something. I do however realise it was unreasonable afterwards and apologise.

You are being unreasonable. If you keep on misplacing them and no one else is taking them, why do you keep on blaming him?