Bubbling need sage advice

[AmberAndAlexsMum]

Ok so here's the conundrum.
Elderly mum in her 80s lives on her own quite happily I might add.
Late forties brother lives on his own just opposite my mum.
Then there's me with my two children, adult daughter teenage son both of whom have Asperger's.
Normally we visit either my mum or my brother every Saturday for dinner. I can't decide whether or not this is now acceptable under the new rules.
Any thoughts on this?
My son is still going to school but he goes to a special school. My daughter only works a few hours a week after local tea shop which is now only offering takeaways.
My mum is quite upset about being isolated again as she was shielding completely during the last lockdown and couldn't see us all that time.
Would I be unreasonable to carry on with our normal dinner arrangements every week?
Cheers for your thoughts and advice.

I believe that as a single person she could choose to bubble with your brother or with you, not with both.

Yes, that’s right Larry. My mum is in the same situation.

As @larrythelizard said. She can bubble with you, or your brother but not both of you

Your mum can only bubble with either you or your brother, so if she chooses you then yes, your dinners can continue.

If she bubbles with your brother, then no, your dinners can’t continue. The five of you cannot see each other altogether during this time.

Many thanks for that. It's in everyone's best interests to comply with new rules so I shall let them bubble together as they are both alone. I have my two for company 😀 when I can get them out of their bedrooms.

It's shit isn't it @AmberAndAlexsMum but I am just hoping this one is only 4 weeks...!

@larrythelizard yes but I would never forgive myself if she became ill because I was too selfish to do the right thing. at least we can talk on the phone leaving if it is hilariously difficult because she is so deaf.

Leaving = even (now the bloody phone is deaf)

I think your whole household can be a support bubble for your mum.

Because I am very recently bereaved, I'm in a support bubble with my late DP's sister. I'm staying with her, so am part of her household.

We have deemed her household a support bubble for their mum, my MIL, and we're going to visit her today.

We believe this is within the rules.

LakieLady: because youa re staying with your late DP's sister you are, as you say, part of her household and, therefore, I think you are right in saying you can be in a support bubble with her mother. However, if you were not spending lockdown staying with her, you could not meet both of them. OP is not living with either her brother or her mother so she can only choose one to be in a bubble with.

PS: And they, too, can only be in a bubble with OP or each other so, whatever way you look at it, one of the three households has to do without the other two.

I think your plan to have DB and DM in one bubble and keep your own family separate is sensible.

In your situation I would strictly stick to the rules even if you felt you could make it safe other ways. That would be for the mental health of the family members with ASD for whom rule breaking could be distressing (and because it is only a month).

If your Mum was in shielding group she will most likely stay in. Your brother and Mum being company for each other is a good idea. Get your brother to take iPad or similar with him then you could have a Skype call together.