AIBU over work?

[Purplehaze34]

Dd was asked today to write sentences about her half term, she’s in Year 3.

The teacher gave them a list of words to put in each sentence. One of the sentences had to contain the word ‘dad’. AIBU to think this is a bit insensitive as I’m a single parent and Dd has never met her dad?

The school are aware of this. Surely they could have picked the word family instead?

YANBU. That’s a bit insensitive.

I hope your DD was okay about it.

She was a bit upset about it, a similar thing happened last year when the teacher read a book about an amazing dad. They then went round the class asking for their experiences of being with their dads.

This all then makes Dd explain ‘I don’t have a dad’ then the other kids ask questions. I’m the only single parent in the class and there are only about three in the entire school, it’s a small and very middle class place!

I think, given how you describe the demographic, you need to make a point of speaking to the teacher at the start of the school year and tell them your circumstances and explain how these seemingly innocent or minor discussions/activities have caused your DD great discomfort in the past and could they please attempt to try to avoid this reoccurring, without limiting another child’s right to talk about their dad, of course. I don’t think it is too much to ask.

My children have a new teacher at their school who says things like “tell your mums to fill out the forms/make your costume/help with the flowers/bake a cake” etc and it goes down like a lead balloon as in this area we have a very high percentage of same sex parents (and many male couples) and stay at home dads. I think it’s not intended to be upsetting, but it is. A polite (and regular) reminder may help.

Totally agree..

She should write an extremely articulate paragraph about how awesome her mother is

YANBU.

My mother died unexpectedly when I was a small child. I was still made to participate in school Mother’s Day events. It was grotesque.

@makingmammaries

YANBU.

My mother died unexpectedly when I was a small child. I was still made to participate in school Mother’s Day events. It was grotesque.

That's appalling.