To just feel sad

jennie0412 · 2020-11-04T20:34:10+00:00

Not because of lockdown, not because of anything. I don't know why I'm sad. I just suddenly feel overwhelmingly sad. Anyone else feeling like this for no specific reason?

AhoyMeFarties · 04/11/2020 20:39

I think it's a combination of everything , but yes, it's OK to feel sad. We all have bad days
Have you anyone you can talk to?

FortunesFave · 04/11/2020 20:40

Do something nice like have a bath and watch something funny on Netflix. Take care of yourself...it's hard when this happens but you have to soldier on.

EdinaMonsoon · 04/11/2020 20:41

I'm sorry you are feeling like this. I'm exactly the same. Started crying today and felt totally overwhelmed. I periodically feel this way and can never pinpoint exactly why. I simply give in to it: Allow myself to feel it and take care of myself in a way that I would a family member or a friend. ie remove all expectations, rest, comforting things like tea, movie, a walk or just wrap myself up in a blanket and sleep.

There's so much going on and we've spent a huge chunk of the year under the pressure of uncertainty and worry. Take care of yourself OP.

choirmumoftwo · 04/11/2020 20:51

I hear you OP. Rationally, I have very little to complain or worry about but still feel anxious a lot of the time, not like me at all.
I just try to own the way I feel, accept that these are such strange times, and try not to be too hard on myself. Take care of yourself.

Spinakker · 04/11/2020 21:22

It might be a kind of mourning over the things we've lost in life currently. E.g. like being able to freely meet friends and family and go out to restaurants etc. I think there's a collective sadness at the moment but remember this will pass.. I get through by thinking how can I make the most of each day. There's still alot available to us and things to be happy about in general.

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jennie0412 · 04/11/2020 22:14

I think most of it is that I spend so much time worrying about making the most of my life that I try to fit myself into a mould of what that should look like, what other people who have achieved that goal did etc. I'm really trying to remind myself that my life is my life, I just need to do what makes me happy and if I get to that goal then great, if not I will have still had a good life.

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jennie0412 · 04/11/2020 22:15

I think this has been a big problem all of my life. Constantly finding different people to look up to and sort of attatching their personality and mannerisms to myself if that makes sense. Reminding myself to just do what I want to do and not because other people do it is the hardest thing for me.

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jennie0412 · 04/11/2020 22:16

I'm sorry to hear other people feel like this but am pleased in a way that it's not just me.
I take comfort in knowing I'm not alone.
Thank you for the kind words

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Mischance · 04/11/2020 22:20

I am so sorry that you feel like this. But it is good that you recognise how your thoughts are bringing you down. That really is the first step to knocking it on the head. Have you tried consciously presenting yourself with counter arguments when these thoughts trouble you? - if needs be writing it down.

One thing that helps is to imagine these perfect people you look up to and compare yourself with when they are sitting on the toilet! Brings it all down to earth a bit!

fucknuckle · 04/11/2020 22:30

i spent a few hours yesterday wondering how long it would take anyone to notice if i just quietly buggered off. the answer, sadly, is ‘quite a long time’.

if i could find someone i trusted to have my cat i’d be gone by now. everything just seems... pointless.

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jennie0412 · 05/11/2020 00:41

@fucknuckle I'm sorry I know how shit that feels. No advice but solidarity

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jennie0412 · 05/11/2020 00:43

@Mischance

I am so sorry that you feel like this. But it is good that you recognise how your thoughts are bringing you down. That really is the first step to knocking it on the head. Have you tried consciously presenting yourself with counter arguments when these thoughts trouble you? - if needs be writing it down.

One thing that helps is to imagine these perfect people you look up to and compare yourself with when they are sitting on the toilet! Brings it all down to earth a bit!

I do try convincing myself otherwise but it sort of fills up my head so I can't get out of it. I'm not sure if that makes sense but I'm not sure how to explain it.

at the sitting on the toilet suggestion!

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jennie0412 · 05/11/2020 00:44

I am scared of not making the most of my life. That I will die with regrets. Or that I'll die before I get to do what I want to do. I could walk to the bus stop tomorrow morning and get hit by a car as I cross the road and die. I wouldn't have done anything I wanted to.
I'm scared of failure. That if I try to do the things I want to do, I'll get laughed at. That I will have failed.

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Andover3 · 05/11/2020 01:05

OP
I have days like this, sometimes weeks but they pass. It’s just difficult to find joy in a lot of things and sometimes MN doesn’t help as lots of posts can cause you anger and upset.
Whenever I feel down, I have a week off social media. As you can’t visit family & friends due to lockdown, try FaceTime or call someone for a chat.

Have a hot bath or shower, if you’re into pampering, try a face mask, foot mask and paint your nails.
Watch a show that makes you happy - comedy, romance etc...
Or go for a walk with a friend (you can meet one outdoors).
The biggest relief for me is coming off social media. I don’t hate it, it just gets overwhelming at times. No wonder we have a lot of depressed young people now.
Take care of yourself x