To have a bad feeling about this client? AIBU

[dodgyclient211]

I have a client I’m seeing on Sunday for a 2 hour clean , he contacted me after seeing my ad and I’ve written everything there including what I charge. Anyway he asks me what I charge and I tell him, £12 an hour. He asks if I can give him a ‘better offer?’ And I say no, the price is non negotiable for all my clients. Already there I had a bad feeling about this client, never had someone quibble over the price, anyway we set a date and time, he gives me his address. I google his address and he tells me to call him when I get there (again never had someone say this to me either) normally we set a date and time, I get there, do my job and it’s out. He just kept telling me to call him when I get there.

I text him saying the address he’s given me is for a laundrette, he tells me the business was registered as address only.

I don’t know what to think, he lives 20 mins away from me, same council different area. I regret taking him on, I should have declined when I got the bad feeling about him quibbling over the price. Feel like it’s to late to say no now, and don’t want him to give me a bad review. But I’m also scared for my safety since I’m on my own.

Absolutely ditch him.

Absolutely ditch him.

Go with your gut. £24 is not worth risking your safety for.

Go with your gut. £24 is not worth risking your safety for.

What everyone else said. I would say you're isolating and then if he ever contacts you after that say since your illness you're not taking new clients on.

Yeah I think I’m just going to cancel. When I googled his address and it came up as ‘corporate office’ and the name of the launderette, and then the constant ‘call me when you get there’ just put me off, why do I need to call you? It was just a red flag to me. I’m not even rejecting him because it’s a man, I’ve had a few male clients. Even had a male client who I thought was just living on his own in a 1bed flat, but it was 2 men living as a couple and felt totally comfortable in their house. Didn’t even think omg it’s two men and I’m on my own lol. They just wanted their house cleaned and nothing else.

This guy just makes me feel so uncomfortable. I have anxiety, and I overthink a lot, and the thought of rejecting him and him giving me a bad review just makes my anxiety worse. Even my friend was like ‘ you’re really going to care more about a bad review than your life and safety?’ and she’s right. Better to be safe than sorry. Thanks for making me feel not unreasonable to cancel :)

Nope trust your instincts. Stay fucking clear

@agradecida

Just send a text: unfortunately I'm no longer able to take this job on due to personal circumstances. I apologise for the short notice.

Then block.

Sounds dodgy and far too risky.

This wording sounds good!

The book someone mentioned before about trusting your gut is called The Gift of Fear' by Gavin deBecker. It's all about trusting that inner voice/instinct/gut feeling and never ignoring it.

I think it's such an important book for girls/women to read!

Nope. First instant stay fucking clear. Trust yourself.

Trust your gut trust your gut trust your gut trust your gut.

Yes, never ignore that inner voice telling you something is ‘off’.

It's screaming danger to me

Am I missing something?

do you have any personal details , maybe try to find him on FB, Linkedin, etc.
Can you take someone with you?

If you are in any doubt definitely don't go

Trust your gut, instinct is there to protect you

ALWAYS trust your gut. Tell you’re no longer able to clean for him and block him.

This, 100%. The few occasions in my life when I've ignored a gut feeling about something serious like this, I've been lucky to come out of it alive. Not kidding. Please just walk away from this.

Trust your gut trust your gut trust your gut trust your gut.

www.suzylamplugh.org/ there is some useful information here.

Take the chance on a bad review. Not the same but I asked for some quotes recently, I paid more for someone where the online checks I did matched up. The man who kept asking questions gave me a bad vibe.

It sounds like he lives over the launderette and there's no direct access or the door to the flat is easy to miss/has no bell/etc. rather than sounding dodgy. I would want the details confirmed before attending, though.

Trusting your gut to tell you to investigate more is wise but trusting your gut to tell you to cut the rope and obeying it every time seems likely to reinforce false assumptions and narrow down your opportunities, especially if you already have anxiety.

If you have plenty of work at the moment then you have much less to lose by dropping him, but if work is slow then

Like the others say trust your gut instinct. As women we are good at that because sadly we have to be. Lots of ways you can say no, but please say no.

Totally agree with everyone else, trust your instincts and cancel. X

ALWAYS trust your gut. Tell you’re no longer able to clean for him and block him.

This, 100%. The few occasions in my life when I've ignored a gut feeling about something serious like this, I've been lucky to come out of it alive. Not kidding. Please just walk away from this.

I'm also big on trust your gut.

Im with the don't goes. you do not need this for £24 You can pick up another client.

ALWAYS trust your gut. Tell you’re no longer able to clean for him and block him.

This, 100%. The few occasions in my life when I've ignored a gut feeling about something serious like this, I've been lucky to come out of it alive. Not kidding. Please just walk away from this.

I also think it’s possible his home is a registered office for his business ... so maybe legit ... maybe do a drive by before if it’s likely to be ongoing business rather than a one off clean - if you have plenty of work though I’d politely make your excuses