How do I change my mood/sex drive.

[JacktomyDaniel]

I love my DH with all my heart. If something awful happened I would be devastated. We're best friends. Two kids under 5. I've never had a great sex drive but now have none at all. I exercise (cardio) 3x per week, take max doseage of sertraline and have a good weekly routine. I just 100% don't want sex. Ever. He's understandably frustrated.
If I was to explain it, it would be just that I'm knackered, no energy, can't be arsed but also just don't want to.
I know this isn't normal, it isn't fair on him. I've just no motivation at all in life even though I work full time and exercise well.

Do I need a different antidepressant? What can I do? There is zero drive there. I am 100% attracted to him but nothing does it.

It doesn't happen for everyone but I know that when I was on sertraline I lost my sex drive completely and I was only on a half strength dose. It might be worth trying a different one just to see if anything changes? I'm sure there are multiple types that would work for you 🙂

I started reading erotic novels (not bloody 50 shades either ).

I read them on my kindle and they put me in the mood, DP got the benefits.

I am on Citalopram and agree, they dry you up quicker than a westerly wind!

1. Sertraline can kill desire.
2. Stop the work-outs and save your energy for your OH.

Sertraline decimates sex drive

Don't stop the workouts.
Did you have a sex drive before sertraline?
Are you getting enough sleep (i think i can guess!)
Are you getting enough iron and vitamin d?

So if we "get going" things are okay. Enjoyable.
Young teenager had a huge sex drive. Then had 3 years of constants uti which understandably put me off. Ended in 3 lots of bladder surgery and self catheterisation.
That's in the past but still very much in my head.
I just want to sleep. No desire at all.

Just want to say I feel exactly the same and don't know what to do about it. I'm not on anything other than the pill to try and help but I have no desire. Two children under 4, tired a lot of the time and just no desire too. But love and fancy the pants of my OH.

I wish I wanted it. I just don't.

Agree perhaps try changing antidepressant, but if it’s working otherwise there are other things you try. Make it a priority like you do exercise (it is good exercise)! If you love your DH it can help to read erotic fiction to warm you up first... also take time when you’re not knackered to have a massage etc. Trying to stroke each other and not actually have sex can be very arousing, and also reduces that sense of having to perform.

Try taking a multi vitamin with magnesium, zinc and B vitamins in it for a few weeks and see if that helps.