To delay ttc no. 2 because of coronavirus?

[Newname1234567]

Inspired by another thread, my AIBU is- AIBU to delay trying to conceive our second due to the coronavirus pandemic?

Details- I'm 32, we already have one dd age 2. Both still have our jobs, house and some savings. Dh is working from home and I'm teaching, so face to face with hundreds of children a week. Ideally we were going to ttc in Jan 2021 (or about now) but have decided to put things on hold until: we don't know when.

I would absolutely love to have a second baby but I also feel so grateful for our happy, healthy dd. I think if I were working from home I would feel safer to consider it, so being in a classroom during this time has definitely affected our decision... but I keep questioning myself and changing my mind!

YABU- you are wrong to delay ttc
YANBU- You are right to delay ttc

Oh OP same!! No idea what to do. The freaking GP have me on the longest wait to remove my implant so I feel lucky it’s out of my hands right now. Really appreciate reading others’ comments. I don’t want to put my life on hold but I don’t want to make my life more stressful right now with all the emotions flying around.

If you would have been ready to ttc under normal circumstances, then I wouldn't wait. You don't know how long it will take.

I wouldn't wait. It took us 15 months to conceive this second baby, took 8 weeks with our first. Same age as you.

There's no right or wrong about it, it's a personal decision. We kept trying and I'm 20 weeks. Its something to look forward to.

Appointments (which have all been face to face in an extra restrictions/tier 3 area) scans and potentially birth alone don't/doesn't bother me. I'm having a csection so that probably influences the nonchalant attitude as I know I won't be labouring. And DH had to leave after an hour or so last time and wasn't able to come back at all and I was fine, so another reason why it doesn't make much difference to me if he's there or not. But it's something to consider.

I'm in a similar boat.

I have a four year old. I wanted to start trying for another in January but I was made redundant. Then I'd just started a new job. Then two weeks later we locked down.

I think we've left it too late now and the age gap will be too large.

I wouldn't wait, I put it off and put it off and now it's too late for me. There is always a reason to delay.

There’s no right or wrong answer. What I can say as someone who fell pregnant in March and therefore has been pregnant for the entire Covid pandemic to date, is that it really hasn’t been that bad and I don’t regret the timing at all. But I know I am lucky that my pregnancy has been relatively straightforward and maternity provision in my area is brilliant.

I'm in in exactly the same sitch as you OP, 32 and with a 2yr old and just thought no I'm not going to wait as I don't know how long this will last. I'm now 12 weeks xx good luck

I’m 41 and pregnant after fertility treatment. I didn’t have the luxury of waiting any longer tho pandemic or no pandemic As soon as clinics re-opened after lockdown, I was straight in there.

Yeah I wouldn't wait. I had my baby just before first lockdown and yeah it's been weird and not at all what I thought maternity leave would be like but it's still been good! Covid isn't going anywhere, go for it