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To just take lifelong antidepressants

117 replies

StripeyandConfused · 02/11/2020 08:22

Been on them on and off since 19. I'm currently without them and I feel awful. It's like I cant cope without them

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Rinoachicken · 02/11/2020 12:00

I spoke to my psychiatrist about this once. He put it like this:

Some people may only need medication for a while and then no longer need it and that’s fine.

Other people may need to always be on some medication and that is also fine.

If you were diabetic, you wouldn’t put pressure on yourself to come off your insulin, you would accept that your body needs it to function. Just because this mental health, it’s no different.

If you need it, you need it. End of.

gingganggooleywotsit · 02/11/2020 12:16

Just take them if you need them to get through life. I have been on them since 28 amd I'm 42 now. I have come off them several times but always end up back on them. A very low daily dose stops my anxiety and depression with very few side effects if I keep it low.

unmarkedbythat · 02/11/2020 12:21

Yanbu. If you feel better on them than off, stay on them. It's fine. No one gives you shit for staying on any other necessary medication long term, I'm not sure why people are so weird about anti depressants.

ViciousJackdaw · 02/11/2020 12:37

@StripeyandConfused Get yourself back on them asap. Call the GP today. I'm 44 and have taken them since I was 17. It took a long time to find one that worked really well but I did and I've had it confirmed by quite a few docs that it's absolutely fine to stay on them for life if that is what you need.

I take the view that my brain simply does not make enough of the right neurochemicals to keep me on an even keel. There's no shame in that. Think of them as being vitamins for the brain. Above all, don't martyr yourself. Wishing you all the best and if you need to chat, my inbox is open Flowers

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 02/11/2020 12:37

I am nearly 55, and have been on ADs off and on since my early 30s, and I have come to the conclusion that I am always going to need them.

I have had group therapy and individual cognitive behavioural therapy, and whilst these have helped, I have never managed to come off the ADs successfully. I manage for a while, and then my mental health deteriorates again, and I have to go back on them.

At the moment, I am on a combination of two ADs, and that seems to work pretty well to keep my mood stable (or it did until Covid and lockdown, which has affected my mental health) - but in my health authority, a combination like this can only be prescribed by a psychiatrist, so if I came off the ADs, and my mental health deteriorated again, and I needed to go back onto the combination, I would have to wait for a psychiatric appointment before I could get the medication I needed.

I believe that there are some of us who are lacking in the brain chemicals needed to prevent depression/low mood, and that, whilst alternative therapies/talking therapies can help us cope, the bottom line is that we need the chemicals artificially topped up, if we are to stay mentally healthy - and just as it is entirely reasonable for someone with an underactive thyroid to take thyroxine, or someone with type 1 diabetes to take insulin, it is reasonable for us to take ADs.

Sadly, taking ADs seems to be seen as a moral failing, not a physical and psychological necessity, and too many doctors want taking them to be temporary. But they don't have to cope with the awful feeling of descending into the black pit of despair when you have stopped taking the medication that kept you out of it!

EmeraldShamrock · 02/11/2020 12:46

I've felt like this the whole time hes been here. Hes 3. its just hard work
You're right it is hard work but it gets easier. My DS is settling at nearly 6.
Can you think of some fun things to do with him. You have to make it happen fake it until you make it.
Go back to your GP.

StripeyandConfused · 02/11/2020 12:51

We do fun things but these are few and far between due to covid now

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StripeyandConfused · 02/11/2020 12:51

I've faked it for 3 years

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Ilovecheese53 · 02/11/2020 12:54

@StripeyandConfused

Im a single parent with little support and i have to work so no time for counselling
What about some type of book to focus your mind on and you can read when it’s convenient for you?

I don’t think taking antidepressants is an issue obviously your taking them for good reason. Have you tried a lower dose?

Wolfiefan · 02/11/2020 13:00

Counselling doesn’t need to be talking about your life. I found CBT really useful. It focused on what I did and what I thought. Practical stuff.
But I am much better on Prozac.

Sirzy · 02/11/2020 13:02

I think your posts show you need wider support than just tablets because they aren’t going to tackle the wider issue.

You should be able to enjoy life

EmeraldShamrock · 02/11/2020 13:15

I've faked it for 3 years It will easier as time passes the small years are really tough.
Do you have any help or support from friends or family.

Spreadingchestnut · 02/11/2020 13:21

I'm not an HCP and I don't personally have any experience with ads, but I thought that they get less effective the longer you take them so , over the long term, you keep having to up the dose? Does anyone know if that is the case or not?

Also, how "old" are these newer more modern SSRIs? Has anyone done any studies in to the effects of taking them long term does anyone know?

TheEmojiFormerlyKnownAsPrince · 02/11/2020 13:51

Genius are you me?

Although my gp prescribed 2 together.

EmeraldShamrock · 02/11/2020 13:51

but I thought that they get less effective the longer you take them so , over the long term, you keep having to up the dose? Does anyone know if that is the case or not?
In my experience you changed the type.
I was on fluoxetine for years I never felt great they stopped working then I went onto sterayln same mg it has been life changing.

WetSausageRoll · 02/11/2020 13:56

I feel so good on Sertraline that if there’s no medical reason for me to not take it, I will be having it crushed and mixed into my thickened fluids in the nursing home in 50 years.

Mountainpika · 02/11/2020 14:07

I've been on citalopram since 2005 when I went down with depression after illness. I tried coming off earlier this year to see what happened - disaster! Felt terrible. So I'll carry on with them probably for the rest of my life. I'm 73. GP very supportive. As someone said above, people take other things to balance the chemicals in their bodies - e.g. insulin - so what's the difference with ADs if they work for you?
No shame in it. Not weakness. Life is to be lived and if our bodies need a bit of help, give it to them.
Good luck.

TheSoapyFrog · 02/11/2020 15:03

I've been taking antidepressants on and off for 20 years and I don't think there will come a time when I can give them up completely. My brain just doesn't seem to produce enough of the chemicals needed so they need to be replaced my medication. For me it's no different to having to have insulin or something.

kateybeth79 · 02/11/2020 20:10

I've been on antidepressants and mood stabilisers for 20 years and will be on them the rest of my life. I don't have any problems with this because I seriously can't cope without them, they are a godsend. As PP said, it's no different to a diabetic taking insulin or someone with asthma using an inhaler. I hate the stigma that comes with antidepressants. It's medication. If you need it, take it.

VDM1420 · 02/11/2020 20:38

Would be much easier if there was just an around cure 🤣

I find if I don't take mine I cant cope with my son, and constantly shout at him.
But its not always easy to remember to take my medication especially when the majority of the time it feels like its not working the only thing it seems to do is keep me a bit cooler with my son but doesn't reduce or subside the mental effects.

Eustaciavile · 02/11/2020 21:02

Citalapram absolutely changed my life for the better. I’m 6 years in and have no regrets or plans to stop -(tried once, never again)
I just see them as a (helpful) fact of my life Smile

StripeyandConfused · 03/11/2020 12:47

I've phoned in sick today. I cant bear going in. I'm waiting for my prescription

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Apileofballyhoo · 03/11/2020 17:52

Are you feeling any better now, OP? Sorry you had a rough day.

StripeyandConfused · 03/11/2020 18:16

I'm due on and I think that plays a big part. The pms is awful and I've got pcos

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Apileofballyhoo · 03/11/2020 19:07

I usually get anxious or sad before my period too. Hope you feel better when it arrives.