Question about support bubbles

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Hi, not sure if this is the right place to write, sorry if it’s the wrong section .

I am currently battling severe PND. My daughter is almost 10 weeks. My husband works long days. Up until now I’ve been in contact with two friends who help me a lot supporting me emotionally. We would go out and keep me occupied in a positive way and they’d be there should I need them when I felt very low. I know we can’t go out and do things socially now but I wondered what the rules are with regards to them coming in to my house . Would they be able to be in a bubble , I’m not sure where the rules stand with regards to certain needs . Sorry if that doesn’t make much sense. I’m very panicked about being alone and about feeling unsafe
I’m in England .

Thank you

Someone who cares for you is allowed to give you care, whether they are paid or not.
Like our babysitter who cares for our DS who has SEN, they don't have to be part of your bubble.

You can't have anyone in your house, but you can meet one of your friends at a time in a public place.

Also, since your husband works as a nurse, it would put your friends at risk if they met you inside. By meeting them outside, the risk is negligible.

Do you have parents you could stay with for support for the duration of the lockdown? This would have to be instead of living with and seeing your husband, but it might be the better option.

A vulnerable person can recieve care. PND is a sensible reason for that.

Any adult may go out to a public outdoor space with one other. Pre-schoolers are exempt from that, so you can do that with baby.

I also wanted to say that I hope your PND improves soon. It is a rotten thing to go through, especially while we are living in this weird new world.

I hope you are having support from your GP and health visitor. There may be baby groups or support groups you can go to, even during lockdown.

@Believehope my two friends actually work with my husband in the same place so they wouldn’t be at any more risk but I do understand what you mean.
Thank you, we’ve been battling to get me help for a very long time. It’s been rotten.

We don't know you. But you will know if you are a vulnerable person and you need care and support. AIBU isn't the place to judge that. It's a cagefight.

(Incidentally, I have been visiting a vulnerable person who needs support throughout this year, with full knowledge of the local council and the NHS, who are also involved. I am not paid. It's absolutely permitted. The situation I describe was agreed to help prevent a worse one. That's what sensible and informed people do.)

Be kind to yourself and listen to yourself. Nobody here has to live your life. You know your own situation and if you honestly need some support now to prevent something worse occurring, then do whatever you can. PND can be a very serious condition.

@jojomolo thank you so much x

[quote JinglingHellsBells]@Rainb0wDrops It's people like you who encourage others to bend the rules that are perhaps the reason for the 2nd wave.

FFS- there are millions of people who could bend the rules.

(I could- my mum is 95 , lives alone, and has 1 person in her support bubble- not me as I live too far away. I can't rock up and give her extra support or even go in her house.)

The OP is not allowed anyone in her house.

How dare you suggest she does?[/quote]
Covid is not the only risk to health that exists. Mental health is equally important particularly in times like this.

@Rainb0wDrops it really is. I’m so concerned about my MH and so is my husband . He does 3 days a week and says he wishes he didn’t have to go in but with me being on maternity leave we need his wages for the mortgage as I can’t cover mortgage and bills on just my NHS maternity pay. I’ve arranged for the nursery nurse to continue coming during lockdown as arranged by our HV. She does baby class with me once a week. She’s really supportive . So that’s something