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Two single parents rule?

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Headspinner2020 · 01/11/2020 17:37

I'm a little confused. I read up on the support bubble, but not sure I really understand.

My partner is a single parent with full custody of his children, and I am a single parent will shared custody (I have the children 75% of the time). Can we form a support bubble? Obviously we do not live together.

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GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal · 01/11/2020 18:12

Yes. A single adult living alone or with children can form a support bubble with another household.

Headspinner2020 · 01/11/2020 18:21

Thank you so much!

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user127819 · 01/11/2020 18:22

Yes, you can form a support bubble with him or with any other household (but only one). Your children can also move between you and him freely regardless of whether you are in the same bubble.

GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal · 01/11/2020 18:31

@user127819

Yes, you can form a support bubble with him or with any other household (but only one). Your children can also move between you and him freely regardless of whether you are in the same bubble.
Erm, I don't think that last part is true as they're not sharing custody of the same children? As I understood it, her DP has full custody of his children, and she has 75% custody of her own?
Mumbum2011 · 01/11/2020 19:05

I don't think you can because your children go elsewhere for 25% of the time- presumably their father? If you and your partner had sole custody of your children then that would be fine.

TheFormerPorpentinaScamander · 01/11/2020 19:10

@Mumbum2011

I don't think you can because your children go elsewhere for 25% of the time- presumably their father? If you and your partner had sole custody of your children then that would be fine.
Yes you can. Someone's ex is unlikely to be any kind of support, which is the point of support bubbles.

Yes OP you and your DP can form a support bubble. Provided neither of you are in one with someone else.

Jammydodger1981 · 01/11/2020 19:11

Yes you can, it specifically says so here: www.gov.uk/guidance/making-a-support-bubble-with-another-household

SilenceOfThePrams · 01/11/2020 19:17

@Mumbum2011thats a separate issue.

A single adult household may form a bubble with one other household. Any household, with any number of adults in it, but only one other household.

Additionally, children may move between their parents’ houses. So children of separated parents can be included in their mother’s bubble with a second household, and, separately, with their father’s bubble.

So yes, 2 single parents can form a bubble together and their respective children can still see all of their parents.

Mumbum2011 · 01/11/2020 19:32

I agree this guidance is confusing but reading the link that was posted op could be deemed in a support bubble with her children's father, regardless of how supportive others assume him to be/not to be. That would mean in total 3 households.

TheFormerPorpentinaScamander · 01/11/2020 19:35

Its not confusing at all. That link makes it quite clear that the other parent is not classed as a support bubble.

audweb · 01/11/2020 19:39

The other parent has never been part of a support bubble under these rules. That’s just shared custody, not support.

TheDowagerDuchessofMwwwahaha · 01/11/2020 19:42

As a pp has said, no one has to be in a support bubble with their ex, as an ex is unlikely to be supportive. It specifically says in the guidance that children can go back and forth between parents in addition to any support bubble their parent has.

You can support bubble with your DP as you are a single adult household - even if only one of you two was a single adult household that would be ok (eg if one household had an adult dc or a lodger).

TheDowagerDuchessofMwwwahaha · 01/11/2020 19:43

I also agree it’s not confusing. Yes there are variations for different households but you just have to read it properly to know.

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