to go to a friends house in lockdown ?

[Itsasecret85]

Friend is a single adult living on her own, she is allowed to have 1 person from another household in her social bubble and that person can visit her indoors during lockdown. She has chosen me to be in her bubble. AIBU to go round there for the eve, when my DH and 3 DC cannot go anywhere or do anything in the next 4 weeks, yet I still get to 'socialise' with this friend. If DH had a single friend I wouldn't mind him going to their house. It feels/is wrong leaving them and going round to hers ?

Don't feel bad meeting your mate OP! X

I am a single parent with a 17 year old. I definitely don’t feel he counts as another adult. As much as I love him it’s not the same at all. It’s not about living alone - it’s about being a lone adult in a house.

@NetflixWatcher

I live with my kids under 18 so am bubbling with my partner (obviously live apart). I was surprised at the rule which is stated on the gov.uk website as mine are early teens so me needing to bubble up seems like I'm taking the piss.

Well, people don't have to, if they don't feel they need to! But a lot of teenagers aren't great company & are very hard work, it gives the single parents if those kids the opportunity for some adult company.

I live alone. I could form a bubble with a family, but they're all far less risk averse than me, so I don't.

Thanks to all for the link. Incredible to me. So an elderly couple separated from their family is fine, but a single parent with a 17 year old apparently needs support? Crackers! Under 10 I could understand. 18 is extremely odd but what would I know? 🤷‍♀️

Do what you like , watch out for snitches

Here comes the drama! Dreading the school run tomorrow when the drama llamas will be out in force .

Gosh, it reads like your friend has picked you and your contemplating not bothering your arse in case your family are a bit jealous.

@Joeblack066 it’s for mental well-being isn’t it. A couple have someone else to be there and talk to. A single parent with say a difficult 17 year old then has no adult company. Also for those with a partner living elsewhere it’s a fairer system.

@Joeblack066

Thanks to all for the link. Incredible to me. So an elderly couple separated from their family is fine, but a single parent with a 17 year old apparently needs support? Crackers! Under 10 I could understand. 18 is extremely odd but what would I know? 🤷‍♀️

Obviously it’s much simpler to draw the line at 18 rather than starting a massive debate over where to draw it.

School-age = child in this scenario

I think the friend visiting you would be better, were I the friend. Unless for some reason I did not get on very well with the rest of your family.

@nosswith

I think the friend visiting you would be better, were I the friend. Unless for some reason I did not get on very well with the rest of your family.

I’d disagree, a good night with your mate and a drink is very different to having to sit there like a spare wheel with them, their spouse and their three kids.

You’re misunderstanding bubbles, your friend will be in a bubble with your household, so DH can’t bubble with a single friend of his own. But she can come to your home and spend time with all of you, you can all go to her home as well. But if anyone in your household or hers develops symptoms or tests positive, you will all have to isolate.

As for an elderly couple, they have each other for company and support. Single adults don’t have that. Even if you have teenagers, most adults wouldn’t want to burden their teenage child with all their worries and fears which is why support from another adult is allowed. I’m very independent and happy in my own company but living alone and not seeing anyone I care about for months on end has honestly broken me this year. If you have other people in your household you can’t possibly understand how achingly lonely it is to be on your own for so long. I know being cooped up with people has its own challenges, but not really in a way that requires a support bubble.

If the elderly couple are vulnerable and need care, well caring for a vulnerable person has always been allowed even back in March/April time.

I guess a line has to be drawn somewhere.

I think it is fine but you do need to agree it with your dh as he isn't able to bubble with a single friend if you are - your household can only bubble with a single extra person.

My friend lives alone and I was round at hers yesterday evening (we're tier 3 so it's only because we've bubbled that's it's allowed). She cooked me muscles and it was delicious. I get where you're coming from OP - I do feel a bit guilty that I'm getting a place i can go because we're "bubbling" with my friend but its for her benefit. She can't spend another 6 months only seeing delivery people and supermarket staff.

@Sonders

I'm sorry OP but that's not how bubbles work, if your friend has a daughter in her household, even when she isn't there she's still part of a two-person unit - and only single persons can bubble.

Not the case. Single adult households with a child under 16 can bubble.

Just RTFT -is it 18?! That seems bizarre.

@nosswith

I think the friend visiting you would be better, were I the friend. Unless for some reason I did not get on very well with the rest of your family.

There's no reason why you can't do bith. You are essentially forming a household with her so can mix at hers, yours or outside

@Storyoftonight

Just RTFT -is it 18?! That seems bizarre.

It’s not really when you think that the government consider under 18s to be children in terms of education/family benefits and the likes so they could hardly class them as “adult company” when they are children the rest of the time.

She’s in your bubble you can go to hers